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Why Players Get The Sexual Side of Her and You Don't

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Summary

Women hide their sexual side from men they fear will judge them, and reveal it fully to men who make them feel safe, accepted, and free from judgment through their disposition and behavior.

Understanding this dynamic lets you stop receiving the curated 'good girl' version and instead attract a woman's authentic, uninhibited self by removing the fear of judgment before it even arises.

Section summaries

Hook: The Contrast

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Opens with a vivid contrast: the same woman is sweet, reserved, and barely affectionate with 'you' (the nice guy), but sexually explicit, adventurous, and emotionally open with a 'player' within days. The narrator insists the only variable is the man, not the woman, and promises to explain why she performs the 'good girl' role and how to become the man she drops it for.

The 'PG version' vs. 'Rated R movie' is the same woman reacting to different men.
You likely did 'everything right' (respectful, nice) and still got the curated version.

Sets the core problem and stakes clearly; essential framing for the rest.

Why Women Perform the 'Good Girl' Role

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Explains that the performance isn't fakery or manipulation but a protective wall built from fear of male judgment. Women know men often sleep with them then relegate them to 'recreational use only' — not wife material. So they curate a 'wifey' image to be taken seriously, especially with men they see long-term potential in. The narrator emphasizes: she has the sexual side; she hides it because she thinks you can't handle it without judging her.

The wall is fear-based, not desire-based.
Men's tendency to categorize women post-sex creates the need for the performance.
She performs most intensely with men she actually likes long-term.

Core psychological insight; reframes the problem from 'she's not sexual' to 'she's not safe.'

The Invisible Test: Seeing Past the Act

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Poses the key question: how to become the man she doesn't hide from? First step: signal early that you see past the performance — but subtly, not by calling it out (which backfires). If she believes she fooled you, her respect drops; you're now a 'simp' who failed a test you didn't know you were taking. The narrator warns that most men either buy the act or clumsily confront it, both losing.

Buying the act = permanent PG version.
Calling it out = corny, blows up.
She tests by performing; passing means signaling you see through it without announcing it.

Explains the failure mode of 'nice guys' and the subtle calibration required.

Safety First: Seeing Isn't Enough

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Clarifies that seeing past the act is necessary but insufficient. You must also make it safe for her to bring that side out. The narrator introduces 'freedom framing': through your behavior and conversation, convey that you see her sexuality and it's safe to express. Done right, you become the man she doesn't perform for — the one she can exhale around. This is a lifestyle, not a trick.

Perception + safety = the combination that unlocks her.
Safety is conveyed through disposition, not verbal reassurance.
Goal: she stops performing because the threat (judgment) is gone.

Bridges insight to actionable behavior; defines the 'how' at a high level.

Freedom Framing: Normalizing Sexuality Pre-Verbally

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Details how to signal safety: normalize her sexuality before she ever brings it up, before sex talk, before she wonders your reaction. Not with words — your disposition, how you carry yourself, how you respond to things, whether you judge others. This removes the fear of judgment before she feels it. The narrator claims players do this instinctively: walls come down invisibly, and she doesn't even realize they were there.

Verbal declarations ('I'm non-judgmental') fail; ambient signals work.
Your reaction to third-party sexuality is a proxy she reads.
Done right, she feels free without a conscious 'decision' to open up.

Most tactical section; explains the micro-behaviors that create macro safety.

Tolerating vs. Inviting: The Energy Difference

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Draws a sharp line: tolerating her sexuality feels like putting up with a flaw (she shrinks); inviting and requiring it makes her feel that part is a gift (she blooms). Women feel this distinction 'in their bones, in their goddamn soul.' The narrator insists players don't just allow — they welcome and require her whole self, and she senses the difference instantly.

Tolerance = conditional acceptance; invitation = celebration.
Her nervous system detects which energy you bring.
Requiring her whole self (not just permitting it) is the player standard.

Critical nuance that separates performative 'openness' from genuine embrace.

Core Philosophy: Treat Her as a Woman First

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Zooms out to a universal principle: beneath all labels, a woman needs to feel treated as a woman — seen, accepted, not judged for her sexuality — just as every man needs to feel respected as a man regardless of status. The narrator analogizes: a broke man and a CEO both need to feel like men; a woman with any history needs to feel like a woman. When you treat her as whole, the performance evaporates because the judgment it guarded against is absent.

The core need is human, not sexual: to be seen without reduction.
Labels (body count, career, lifestyle) don't change the fundamental need.
Players understand this 'life game,' not just dating game.

Reframes the entire video from tactic to mindset; the philosophical anchor.

Pitch: Escalation Playbook

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The narrator recaps the 'why' (fear of judgment, safety removes walls) and teases the 'how' — specific moves, conversation techniques, flirting, escalation, handling objections — as the content of his paid 'Escalation Playbook' dropping July 13th. Directs viewers to the waitlist link in description. Ends with a light joke about calling viewers 'weenies.'

The video is a lead magnet for a paid course.
Specific behavioral 'moves' are withheld for the product.
The free content covers mindset and principles; tactics are gated.

Pure sales pitch; skip if you only want the free principles.

Key points

The 'Good Girl' Act Is a Protective Wall, Not a Lie — Women perform a reserved, non-sexual persona because they know men often categorize them as 'recreational use only' once they show sexuality; the performance shields them from being devalued, not because they lack desire.
Seeing Past the Act Is Not Enough; You Must Make It Safe — Even if you recognize the performance, she won't drop it unless your behavior signals — before sex is discussed — that her sexuality is normal, welcome, and free from judgment.
Tolerating vs. Inviting Her Whole Self — Tolerating her sexuality feels like putting up with a flaw; inviting and requiring it makes her feel that part of her is a gift. Women feel this distinction viscerally and either shrink or bloom accordingly.
Core Need: To Be Treated as a Whole Woman First — Regardless of lifestyle or history, a woman's fundamental need is to feel seen and treated as a woman — not judged for her sexuality — just as men need to feel respected as men regardless of status.
Freedom Framing: Signal Safety Through Disposition, Not Words — You normalize her sexuality by how you carry yourself, respond to others, and converse — never by announcing 'I'm non-judgmental.' The signal must be ambient and pre-verbal.

“She's not hiding that side of herself because she don't have it. Trust me, she do. It's a little freak in all of them. She's hiding it because she think you can't handle it.” — Narrator

“Tolerating it is you putting up with it, allowing it, like you're doing her a favor. Welcoming it though is you actually wanting it, embracing it, making her feel like that part of her is a gift, not a problem you're tolerating.” — Narrator

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You keep getting that good girl version

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of her, the sweet one, the reserved one,

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the one who act like she barely even

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think about sex, and you sitting there

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thinking that's just who she is.

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Meanwhile, some other dude, the player,

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pull that exact same woman, and she show

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him a whole different side, side you

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didn't even know existed. Sweet and

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innocent for you, freaky and free for

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him. The same exact woman. And I ain't

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even talk about something small. I'm

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talking about the woman who barely text

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you back with more than one word, is

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sending him stuff that will make you

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drop your damn phone. The woman who kept

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everything surface-level with you, kept

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you at arm's length, is telling him her

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deepest fantasies just 3 days in. The

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one who made you feel like you was

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moving too fast for holding her hand, is

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doing things with him you only see in

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your imagination. Same exact woman. The

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only thing different is the man standing

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in front of her. Let that sink in for a

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second. And I know that's a hard pill to

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swallow because you probably did

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everything right. You was respectful,

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you was nice, you treated her good, and

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you still got the PG version while the

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next man got the rated R movie. So, by

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the end of this video, you're going to

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see exactly why she does that, and what

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that other dude is doing that you're

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not. Let's get into this game. So,

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here's the first thing you got to

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understand. Women will run the good girl

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thing on you if you let them, all day,

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every day. And I want you to peep game.

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It's not because she's being fake. It's

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not because she's playing some game to

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trick you. She does it because she wants

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to be perceived a certain way. She wants

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you to look at her a certain way,

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especially if she think you got

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potential long-term. She wants you to

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see her as the wifey type, the one you

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take serious, the one you bring your

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people around, the one you can introduce

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your mama to. And they know something

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about men. She knows that men will judge

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her the second she shows her sexual

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side. She knows a lot of dudes will take

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her there, get what they want, and then

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move her into a different category in

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their head. Cool to have fun with, but

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nobody to take serious. For recreational

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use only. Women know that game better

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than you do. So, the good girl image is

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not really a lie she's telling you. I

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mean, it ain't real, but it ain't a lie.

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That's a wall she built out of fear of

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being judged. Sit on that for a second

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because it's important. She's not hiding

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that side of herself because she don't

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have it. Trust me, she do. It's a little

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freak in all of them. She's hiding it

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because she think you can't handle it.

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She think if she show you who she really

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is, you going to look at her different.

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So, she gives you the safe version and

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keeps the real one locked away. So, now

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the real question is this.

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How do you become the man she don't feel

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like she got to hide it from? And this

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is where the [ __ ] get good, so stay with

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me because this ain't a list of tricks.

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It is a way of being. It's a lifestyle.

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This [ __ ] is in you, not on you. First

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thing, you got to let her know early

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that you see past it. And no, not a call

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out. You're not going to sit there like,

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"Oh, I know you're not really this slick

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innocent little thing." Nah, that's

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corny. It's going to blow up in your

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face. It got to be subtle, but she

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cannot believe she fooled you. If she

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believes she pulled that good girl act

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over your eyes and you bought into it,

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that's all you're going to ever get.

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You're going to get that good girl act

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forever. And it's deeper than that

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because her respect for you actually

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dropped when she realized she ran it on

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you and you fell for it. Now in her

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mind, you're just like the rest of the

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simps who can't see what's really going

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on. You failed a test you didn't even

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know you was taking. But here's where

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most of you guys mess it up. Even when

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you see past it, seeing past it is not

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enough by itself. You could see right

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through the whole thing and still get

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nothing because seeing it and making it

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safe to bring out is two different

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things. You got to do both. You got to

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make it safe to come out and play, and

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that's the whole game. You convey early

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through how you move and how you talk

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that you see that side of her and it's

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safe to bring it out around you. If you

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do that well just through your behavior

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and your conversation, you will become

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that guy to her, the one she don't

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perform for, the one she can finally

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exhale and be free around. See, that's

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that freedom framing game. It's the

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thing that players like myself

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understand without even thinking about

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it. You showing her she's free and safe

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to express her whole self around you,

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not half of herself, not the edited

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version, her whole self. She don't got

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to leave parts of who she is at the door

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when she with you. And truth be told,

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here goes some more game. I require her

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to show up as her whole self. She can't

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leave that other side at home. She got

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to be her whole free self with me and I

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let them know it's safe to do that, but

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it's mandatory. You got to bring your

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whole self. Now, the way you do that is

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you normalize her sexuality before she

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ever has to defend it. You do it before,

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before she even bring it up, before

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y'all start talking about sex, before

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she even has to wonder how you going to

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react. You don't say it out loud with

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your mouth. That's the mistakes. Y'all

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want to announce it. No, your

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disposition says it for you. How you

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kick your game, the way you carry

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yourself, the way you respond to certain

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things, the way if you judging people or

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not. It all tells her that expressing

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that energy is normal and it's cool with

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you. It's safe with you. And no, not the

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simp safe, the player safe. You removing

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that fear of judgment before she even

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feel the need to bring it up to you. So,

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by the time that side of her want to

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come out, there's no walls there no

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more. You already took it down without

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her ever having to make a thing about it

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and without her even knowing. That's the

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game. When you do it right, she don't

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even know them walls down. She don't

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even realize it. And here's the

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difference that separates the players

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from everybody else. They don't just

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tolerate that side of her, they invite

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it and like I said, require it because

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tolerating and welcoming are two

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completely different things and a woman

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can feel exactly which type of time you

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want. Tolerating it is you putting up

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with it, allowing it, like you're doing

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her a favor.

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Welcoming it though is you actually

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wanting it, embracing it, making her

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feel like that part of her is a gift,

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not a problem you're tolerating. She

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feel the difference in her bones, she

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feel it in her goddamn soul. Tolerating

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it make her shrink. Inviting it and

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allowing it and embracing it makes her

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bloom and blossom. But check this out

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because all of this, the sexual side,

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the freedom, all of it, it really comes

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back to one thing way bigger than sex.

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At the end of the day, and I want you to

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pay attention to me cuz this ain't just

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dating game, it's life game. At the end

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of the day, you're dealing with a woman,

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and a woman wants to be treated like a

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woman, period. Regardless of her

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lifestyle, regardless of her choices,

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regardless of her career, her body

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count, how she express herself sexually,

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none of that changes the core thing.

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Irrational or not, I know it's

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irrational. Fair or not, she is a woman

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first and she needs to feel like you see

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her as one and treat her as like one.

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She is a woman first. And let me put the

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shoe on the other foot so you feel me.

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Think about yourself for a second. It

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don't matter if you're a trick, a simp,

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a player, a bum, rich, flat broke,

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homeless street dude, career dude,

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corporate Mexican, white, black, you

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still need certain things from a woman.

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You still need respect, you still need

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appreciation,

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you still need to feel like a man.

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That need don't disappear based on your

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situation or your choices or your bank

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account or the lifestyle you live. A man

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who ain't got [ __ ] still want to feel

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respected. A man who got everything

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still want to feel appreciated. The CEO

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and the dude sleeping in his car need

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the same thing at the core, to feel like

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a man in the eyes of a woman. The label

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on top don't change what's underneath.

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Money don't remove the need, status

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don't remove the need. It's human.

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You're a man first before anything,

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before all the labels. You're a man and

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you need to feel like a man. You need to

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be treated like a man. You need what a

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man needs. Same thing applies to her.

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She's a woman first before the labels,

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before the judgment, before whatever box

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you want to put her in, she needs what a

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woman needs. So, when you treat her like

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a whole woman, when you see all of her,

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you make her feel safe and wanted, not

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just parts that's convenient for you.

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That's when everything changes. That's

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what players understand that you weenies

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don't.

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I didn't want to call you a weenie. You

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ain't no weenie. But, I'm just joking.

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But, when you convey that you see her

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whole, she stops performing the good

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girl image for you. She got no reason to

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hide it no more. The wall come down

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because the thing she built it against,

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the judgment, it ain't there with you.

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It don't exist. That other dude been

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getting the whole woman. You been

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getting the PG version. Now you know

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exactly why. So, now you know why women

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run that play. The fear of judgment and

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the man who makes her feel safe enough

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to drop it is the man who get all of

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her. That's the why. But, the how,

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exactly how you convey and how you see

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her and make it safe through your

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behavior and your conversation, the

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specific moves, the way you kick your

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game and carry yourself, that's what I

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break all the way down, all the way down

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inside the escalation playbook.

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Flirting, sexual escalation,

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positioning, how you carry yourself,

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knocking down objection, handling fear,

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that whole game of getting her whole

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self instead of the version she let

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everybody else see, that drops July

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13th. The link is in the description.

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Get on the waitlist right now. I'll see

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you inside.

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