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The Psychology of Why Your Mind Keeps Making You Suffer! | Tony Robbins

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Summary

Suffering is not caused by life events, but by unconscious mental software that fixates on lack, loss, and uncontrollable circumstances; lasting emotional freedom comes from choosing to interrupt stress within 90 seconds and trading rigid expectations for active appreciation.

Success without emotional control creates a permanent state of internal lack, meaning even extraordinary external achievements will feel like continuous suffering if you fail to master the meaning you assign to everyday events.

Section summaries

The Selective Lens of Focus

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Tony Robbins explains that human beings do not experience life as it objectively exists, but rather experience whatever subset of reality they focus upon. In any situation, both positive and negative elements are present simultaneously, meaning emotional health is a matter of intelligence rather than blind optimism. Robbins points out that catastrophic beliefs, such as fearing societal or environmental collapse to the point of refusing to have children, demonstrate the severe emotional toll of unchecked negative focus. He advocates learning to discipline disappointments so they do not compound into chronic emotional despair.

What is wrong is always available to focus on, but what is right is equally accessible.
Emotional mastery is not about forced positivity; it is about intelligent direction of your attention.

Establishes the fundamental thesis of the discussion on focus and perception.

The Three Decisions and the Achiever's Dilemma

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Robbins outlines the three decisions everyone makes in every moment: what to focus on, what that focus means, and what action to take next. The meaning assigned to an event determines the emotional response, which directly dictates the quality of one's life regardless of wealth or family status. He illustrates this by contrasting whether someone interprets an interaction as being disrespected versus being coached or loved. He further highlights a psychological trap common among high achievers: chronically focusing on what is missing rather than what is present, which creates an endless hamster wheel driven by scarcity rather than lasting fulfillment.

Your life quality is directly defined by your baseline emotions, not your material achievements.
High achievers often suffer because they habitually look for what is missing, creating a perpetual state of lack.
Mindset patterns operate like unconscious software; you must use your mind as a tool or it will use you.

Explains the core tripartite psychological framework that drives daily emotional states.

Anticipation, Control, and Temporal Balance

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Robbins analyzes how people split their focus across what they can versus cannot control, and between the past, present, and future. Using the analogy of an adult playing a video game against an experienced child, he demonstrates that success comes from anticipation rather than raw speed or intelligence. He connects this to business, stating that leaders must simultaneously manage the business they are in and the business they are becoming to survive. While achievers thrive on future anticipation, Robbins stresses that all joy lives strictly in the present moment, warning that ruminating on an unchangeable past or an uncontrollable future fuels chronic stress.

Anticipation is the primary driver of achievement because it moves you from reaction to strategic preparation.
Running a successful business requires balancing current operational cash flow with future reinvention.
All genuine joy is rooted in the present, while stress and depression stem from ruminating on the past or future.

Provides a useful diagnostic framework for understanding where mental energy is wasted.

Intelligent Selfishness and Reframing Suffering

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Robbins argues that psychiatric drugs often merely numb symptoms without addressing the root cause: chronic focus on what is missing and uncontrollable. True control is internal, rooted in self-directed focus, assigned meaning, and action. He introduces the concept of 'intelligent selfishness,' asserting that serving others (such as paying for strangers' coffee) triggers positive biochemical shifts that naturally elevate self-esteem. Finally, he redefines common achiever feelings—such as stress, frustration, and worry—as subtle forms of suffering, explaining that achievers often use 'stress' as a euphemism to avoid admitting fear.

Medication often numbs emotions without solving the habit of focusing on lack and uncontrollable events.
Intelligent selfishness proves that contributing to others generates immediate personal biochemical and psychological rewards.
Achievers typically disguise fear under the label of stress, failing to recognize that ongoing frustration is actually suffering.

Exposes how achievers rationalize their negative states and offers contribution as an antidote.

The 90-Second Rule and Believing Stressful Thoughts

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Robbins details his practical 90-second rule, which involves catching negative emotional states immediately and dissolving them rather than letting them compound. Because the human brain evolved millions of years ago for primal survival rather than modern happiness, it naturally generates threat-based worries about money and social status. He explains that suffering only takes hold when a person actively believes a stressful thought centered around loss, less, or never. Believing that one has lost value, possesses less love or resources, or will never regain success causes paralysis, preventing action and reinforcing suffering.

The brain is an ancient survival machine designed to spot threats, not an engine designed to create happiness.
Suffering only occurs when you believe stressful thoughts based on loss, having less, or believing you will never recover.
Believing 'never' thoughts paralyzes proactive behavior, making perceived failure a self-fulfilling reality.

Delivers the central actionable technique (the 90-second rule) and the psychological anatomy of stress.

Trading Expectation for Appreciation

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Robbins explains how having cheap emotional standards ruined his peace, noting that overseeing 31 companies and 1,200 employees guaranteed that someone was making an error at any given moment. Checking his phone and expecting perfection meant his happiness was constantly fragile. He points out that the probability of others behaving exactly as you wish is zero, meaning expectations inevitably spawn frustration. The ultimate solution is deciding to inhabit a beautiful state unconditionally by swapping rigid expectations for gratitude and detaching from the belief that stressful thoughts are personal or unique.

Expecting people or circumstances to operate flawlessly guarantees continuous unhappiness.
Replacing expectation with appreciation instantly dissolves personal frustration.
Stressful thoughts are universal patterns shared by millions, not unique personal truths.

Contains Robbins' most widely cited relational mindset shift: expectations versus appreciation.

Thoughts as Waves and Breaking the Pattern

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Robbins demystifies intrusive mental thoughts by comparing them to invisible radio or television waves that travel universally through the environment. Rather than owning every dark or aggressive thought that passes through, individuals must understand that physical physiology acts as the receiver tuning into specific emotional channels. Changing your posture, breathing, or laughter instantly shifts the channel. He outlines a three-step protocol for sustaining a beautiful state: identify your habitual flavor of suffering, eliminate the emotional monster while it is still small, and actively redirect your focus onto gratitude, love, and appreciation.

Thoughts are environmental waves; changing your physical body changes which mental channel you receive.
You must kill emotional monsters when they are small rather than waiting for them to grow uncontrollable.
Gratitude and negative states like anger or fear cannot occupy conscious awareness at the exact same time.

Provides the closing step-by-step methodology to dismantle suffering using physiology and gratitude.

Key points

The Three Universal Daily Decisions — Every person constantly makes three unconscious decisions: what to focus on, what meaning to assign to that focus, and what action to take next.
The Survival Brain and the 90-Second Rule — The human brain evolved over two million years to ensure survival rather than create happiness, meaning stress and negative thoughts inevitably surface; the 90-second rule requires acknowledging the stressful thought immediately and choosing to let it go before it escalates into full-blown suffering.
The Trifold Trap of Suffering: Loss, Less, and Never — Suffering occurs exclusively when you believe thoughts framed around loss (having lost something valuable), less (having diminished love, money, or freedom), or never (believing you will never recover or attain what you desire).
The Power of Anticipation and the Present-Future Balance — Anticipation is the foundational skill of high achievement because it prevents reactive living, but true joy only exists in the present moment.

“We don't experience life. None of us do. We experience the life we focus on.” — Tony Robbins

“If you got a billion dollars and every day you're pissed off and angry, your life's quality is called pissed off and angry.” — Tony Robbins

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We don't experience [music] life. None

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of us do. We experience the life we

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focus on.

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So in any moment, what's wrong is always

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available. So is what's right.

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So it's not about being positive. It's

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about being intelligent,

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[music]

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right? You know, when you're in a

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totally negative state, you know, the

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world's going to end and there are

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people like believing that in the next

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12 years, you know, the entire

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environment's going to collapse and they

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won't have a child. You know, you got to

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look at the impact of what you're

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believing and you got to look at and

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say, you know, where's my focus going?

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There's I can always be upset about

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something. I could always find something

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to be joyous or at least grateful for

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which leads to joy. And I think it's

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having that learning to discipline your

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disappointments, you know, not allow

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them to grow and to move on and to use

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whatever life has given you. But to me,

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it's like I think there's uh three

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decisions that people make every moment

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of their life. Now, I'm not saying they

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make them consciously. If you make them

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unconsciously, you have the same

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patterns over and over again. And

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usually they're not good ones, right?

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Sometimes they're good, but not usually.

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These are the three decisions that I

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think everyone makes every moment.

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First, you're doing it right now. What

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are you going to focus on? You could be

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focusing on how your stomach feels if

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you've not eaten. There's a million

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things you could focus on, literally.

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But [music] we don't experience life. We

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experience the part of life we focus on.

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And so the second decision though, the

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minute you focus on something, your

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brain has to decide what does it mean?

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And meaning is what creates emotion. And

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emotion is where your life is, right?

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And so the quality of your life is the

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quality of your emotions. If you got a

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billion dollars and every day you're

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pissed off and angry, your life's

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quality is called pissed off and angry.

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If you got three beautiful children, a

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husband or wife you love, but you worry

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all the time, your life is worry, you

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know, and that usually leads to the

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third decision, which is what are you

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going to do? And like if you think if

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the meaning is something happens, you

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say this person is dissing me, you know,

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disrespecting me or is this person

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challenging me or is this person

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coaching me or is this person loving me?

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If you think they're dissing you, you're

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going to have a very different emotional

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reaction than if you think they're

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coaching you or loving [music] you. And

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then of course that's going to change

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what decision you make. Cuz if you're

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angry, you're going to make a different

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decision that if you're playful or

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generous or whatever the case may be. So

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those three decisions control our lives.

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We all have a pattern of focusing on

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what we have and at times on what's

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missing. Which one do you think most

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people spend more time focusing on what

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they have or what's missing?

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>> What's missing?

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>> What do you focus more on?

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>> What's missing?

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>> The focus on what's missing is not

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something it comes with someone who is a

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failure. It comes very much with people

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who are very successful. And the

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question then becomes if you're always

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focused on missing, how can you sustain

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happiness?

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>> You're in a permanent place of lack.

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>> So scarcity is there. So you'll have

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drive, right, to keep staying on the

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hamster wheel of achievement, but you're

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not going to see much fulfillment. Not

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in a sustainable way. It's impossible.

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It has nothing to do with you or me,

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right? It's just software.

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And we got a soul. We're not [music]

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software. But you run your software so

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often you start thinking your mind is

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you versus my mind is a tool that I'm

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going to use or if I don't use it, it's

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going to use me. Second question, which

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do you tend to focus on more? What do

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you think most people focus on more?

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what they can control or what they can't

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control. Where do you tend to focus

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more? Your past, your present, or your

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future? We all spend all three. But

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where do you spend more of your time?

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Where do you think most people do?

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What makes you an achiever? Is

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anticipation. And there, you know, also

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if you don't anticipate, it's like

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taking a playing a video game against a

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child. Now, you're a different

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generation, so you might kick the

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child's ass. I don't know. But my

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generation, I didn't play any video

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games.

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>> [music]

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>> So, if a child, you know, is your your

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nephew or your niece or your or your

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grandson, granddaughter or your son or

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daughter, and you give them a gift,

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let's say, of a playing a video game.

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You give them a new video game for

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Christmas or the birthday. What's the

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first thing? Oh, come play with me,

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pops. Come play with me, uncle. Come

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play. No, no, no. I don't I don't do

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those things. Oh, let me show you. It's

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so easy. Boom, boom, boom, boom, boom.

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Three shots. Boom, boom. They're they're

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going great.

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So, some part of you finally says, "I'll

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show this little bastard something here.

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I'll go ahead and do this thing here."

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All right, fine. Give me this thing. But

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you should know you're being set up when

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the kid says something to you, like you

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go first, and so you go and you go boom

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boom boom boom and you're dead in 4

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seconds, right? The kid goes, "Not bad.

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Not bad for the first time, right?" And

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then they take the thing.

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45 minutes later, you get your second

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turn. Right? Now you're really pissed.

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Maybe you make it 2 minutes. The kid

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goes for another 45. Why does the kid

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win every time? Is it because they're

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smarter, faster, younger? No, it's

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because they played this game before.

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They can anticipate the first bad guy's

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here, the second bad guys here. You're

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in reaction. They're anticipating. So,

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it has tremendous power. [music] So,

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it's addictive when you learn to

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anticipate. And and it's also a great

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skill set for business, for life, and so

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forth. I always tell people, if you're

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running a business, you're always

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running two businesses. The business

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you're in and the business you're

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becoming.

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If you only focus on the business you're

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in, someone's going to replace you. If

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you only focus on what you're going to

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become, you're going to have the cash

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flow to be able to get to that place.

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Right? So, it's a very similar situation

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inside of where we are. Most of us who

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are achievers tend to focus on the

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future, but all the joy is in the

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present, right? You can have some

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anticipation in the [music] future and

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be excited about it. You can most people

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stress comes from either the past or the

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future. The majority of people spend a

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lot of time in the past, right? And the

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problem is you can't change it. And and

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you can use it as a reference. The

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[music] contrast of remembering where

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you were and who you've become is

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probably a beautiful thing. But if you

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use it that way, but most people go back

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and they [music] ruminate about the past

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or they ruminate about a future that

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they can't control and the present's

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there. So the goal is an ideal is fuel.

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An ideal fuel is a combination of the

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two.

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>> Present that gives you that centered

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grounding and anticipation for the

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future. The ability to bounce back and

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forth. I think if we make the right

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decisions, the first one is what we're

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going to focus on and that's just a

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habit. you change anything.

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Take that person. Why is that person

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depressed still? Cuz all that drug does

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is numb you.

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>> Mhm.

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>> And numbing doesn't deal with the issue.

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What's the real issue? You're constantly

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focused on what's missing versus what

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you have. You're focused on what you

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can't control. And there's two worlds,

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right? The external world, the internal

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world. We can't control the external

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world. We can influence it. The part we

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can control is what's going on inside of

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us. And that we can control what we

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focus on. We can control the meaning. We

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can decide the meaning. We're the

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meaning makers. and we can decide what

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to do. And when we make those three

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decisions, we're in control of our life.

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And all the anxiety and tends

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to go away. Especially [music] if we're

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trying to do that to serve something

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more than ourselves. Not like you're so

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unselfish you're not going to succeed

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cuz you can't serve something more than

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yourself and not benefit,

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>> right? So it's like it's not like you're

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sacrificing, you know, the people that

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play that game. It's not a sacrifice.

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It's like philanthropy. philanthropy. I

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mean, you're in line with people in

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Starbucks and you if you buy five people

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who you don't know their coffee, you get

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a biochemical change that has a more

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lasting impact than most things you

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could purchase for yourself instead of

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including large purchases.

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So, it's like it's intelligent

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selfishness is the truth. You can't

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possibly do good and not feel good. When

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you want some self-esteem, do something

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worthwhile beyond just yourself. If you

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think of the lousy states as suffering

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states, then you can end suffering just

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by ending the state. And I said, I don't

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really relate to the word suffering. And

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and I don't think most achievers do.

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Most achievers don't even get fearful.

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We get stressed.

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>> I always tell people fear is the

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achiever word for stress cuz if I follow

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your stress, it'll take me to your fear.

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But I realized I didn't relate to

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suffering. Like if you had told me two

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years ago, Tony, do you suffer? It's are

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you kidding me? I got the greatest life.

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if I have the most incredible [music]

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wife and four kids and I got 31

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companies and I'm financially free and I

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have a mission I love and I'm in good

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health and that would all be honest. I

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wouldn't have been dishonest about it.

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But

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what really helped me out of that

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conversation, I left there and I went,

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"Well, where do I suffer?"

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And I realized frustration is suffering

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and I get frustrated, [music]

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>> you know, I get concerned, I get pissed

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off, I get, you know, worried sometimes.

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I get these feelings. And so what I

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decided to do was, you know, just really

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create a 90-cond rule for myself [music]

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where I would end suffering as it arises

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because anybody tells you you're going

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to end suffering is full of crap. The

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reason is your brain is a 2 million-y

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old brain. It's not designed to make you

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happy. It's designed [music] to make you

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survive.

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>> But there's no saber-tooth tiger for you

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to react to anymore. So now we worry

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about what are people thinking of us? Do

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I have enough money? So what I try to do

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is show people you can't build on

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failure. You can only build on success.

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So over the last two years, what I've

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done is play this little 90 secondond

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rule. And if I feel tension in me, I go,

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"Okay, that's suffering. Where's it

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coming from? What am I stressed about?

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What am I concerned about?" And what I

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immediately do is I realize

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the stressful thought since I've seen

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Christian G, I kind of traded one thing.

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What I really do now is I dig in and I

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notice that the only time you have

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stress or suffer is when you believe a

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stressful thought.

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>> So, what would be one or two of the most

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stressful thoughts that happen to you

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most often, cuz we all have them, right?

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Whenever you believe, your mind believes

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a stressful thought like, "Oh my god,

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I'm not, my business is not going any.

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Oh, this guy screwed this up and now

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I've lost something. I've lost this

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opportunity or I've lost the time or

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I've lost the money." [music] Or it can

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not be someone else. It could be you.

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You could say, "I failed to do this. I

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did something or I failed to do

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something and as a result, I've lost

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something I value. Significance, trust,

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love, money, freedom, whatever." or

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you've said something or did something

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or failed to do something or I failed to

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do something or say something and I feel

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like I have less love or less money or

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less freedom. Less will make you suffer.

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The ones worse is never. If you start

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believing that because she said that or

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she did that or because I failed to do

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this or I said that I'll never have love

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again. I'll never be wealthy. I'll never

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be free. Once you believe that, it's

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true because you won't initiate. You

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won't solve it. You won't create it.

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So I'm very sensitive to loss less never

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anything that triggers that and the

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antidote to it is to [music] realize

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it's not you. So your thought of god you

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know my business stressful is this going

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to you know I'm sure it'll make it but a

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little more part of you like is this

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going to make it or this guy screwed up

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and look it screwed me out of all these

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things. When those things happen and you

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suffer it puts you in a mode what you're

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really suffering about is yourself. So

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the antidote to suffering, the antidote

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to loss less than never is [music]

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appreciation. I always tell people,

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trade your expectation for appreciation.

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Your whole life changes. I realized my

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happiness was so cheap cuz all I had to

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do is have this nearby and I could lose

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my happiness [music] because 31

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companies, 1200 employees, seven

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different What are the chances that

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right now someone is screwing up

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something with that many employees and

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that many businesses?

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>> 100%.

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>> 100%. So all I had to do is wait and

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open up and find the piece there. It's

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like I can't believe what THE HELL IS

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THE MATTER WITH HIM.

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>> SEE, I realized [music]

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>> all I had to do is have my phone to be

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stressed. If that's true, my happiness

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is so cheap. Cuz what are the chances of

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everybody doing exactly what you think

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they should do the right way every day?

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>> Zero.

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>> Zero. What are the chances of the people

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you love doing what you want them to do

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the way you want to do them every day?

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>> Zero. So your happiness will never last

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as long as it's got expectation behind

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it. [music] So what I did was I began to

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realize I made the decision. It's the

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most important decision I believe of

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your life that I'm not going to suffer

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anymore. Life's too short to suffer and

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I'm going to live in a beautiful state

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every [music] day. And the way I do it

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is I catch myself and I start to get

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that sense of stress. I let it go and I

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see the idea go by. So your thoughts,

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thoughts about this person messing up

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your business or not following through.

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If I was in a room with 10,000 people, I

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guarantee you 60 70% of the business

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owners have the same thoughts at times,

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right?

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>> I ask people all the time, tell me your

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most stressful thought. Oh, I'm worried

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about my children. This may happen. How

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many people that have had that thought?

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Everybody.

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>> Uh, I might not make it financially bl.

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My [music] point is it's not your

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thought. It's the mind, not your mind.

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When you think it's your mind, you

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identify with it and it's you can't

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separate from yourself. Right?

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>> But when you [music] realize these

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thoughts have been around for millions

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of years and I'm just thinking the same

12:26

thought that so many people thought

12:27

before. Like how many people have ever

12:28

thought, "I'm going to kill this son of

12:29

a bitch." Now, you didn't do it cuz you

12:31

didn't believe you're really going to

12:33

kill them, but you felt it. You said it.

12:35

You were there, right? So, we all have

12:37

thoughts. It's only the stressful

12:40

thoughts we believe that mess us up. So,

12:41

what I try to show people is if you can

12:44

start to realize these thoughts have

12:46

been around for millions of years. If I

12:47

told you a million, you know, thousand,

12:49

hundred years ago that we're going to go

12:50

to the moon and back, you called me a

12:51

lunatic, a crazy. If I said a 100 years

12:54

ago, you're going to have a little box

12:55

like this. It'll fit in your pocket and

12:58

[music]

12:58

you can click on it and you can see what

13:00

the weather is any place. You could

13:02

click on it and see a live person on the

13:04

other side of the earth and talk to them

13:05

by looking in this box. And the way it

13:07

works is invisible waves are traveling

13:08

around the earth and it pulls invisible

13:10

waves in the box. You go like, read

13:12

between the lines. There's no way, you

13:14

dumb idiot. It's never going to happen.

13:17

So, what I want you to realize is

13:19

thoughts are invisible waves. When you

13:21

turn on a TV, it takes invisible waves.

13:24

And depending on the channel, you're

13:26

going to see a love story or an

13:28

adventure or a drama or a comedy

13:31

>> or a horror. The way you use your body

13:34

determines which of those thought

13:36

[music] waves come through you. One

13:37

moment you're pissed off, the next

13:39

moment somebody makes you laugh, you

13:41

change your body, you change the

13:42

channel, you change what comes through

13:44

you. So, what I've tried to do in this

13:45

very beautiful state is simple.

13:47

>> Yeah. [music]

13:47

>> First, identify where you're suffering.

13:49

What's your favorite flavor? Are you a

13:50

worrier? Are you a pissed-off person?

13:52

>> Stressed, angry.

13:53

>> What is it you do?

13:54

>> Second of all, decide you're going to

13:56

kill that monster while it's little.

13:57

You're not going to wait till it's

13:58

Godzilla taking the city. You're going

14:00

to break the pattern.

14:03

You start to feel the stress. You see it

14:05

as thoughts going by. And then you focus

14:07

on something to appreciate and joy or

14:09

love. Appreciation, love, and joy

14:11

destroy suffering. You can't be grateful

14:13

and angry [music] simultaneously. It's

14:15

possible. You can't be worried and

14:18

fearful and and grateful simultaneously.

14:20

So, I tell people gratitude is one of

14:22

the emotions to cultivate that'll

14:24

destroy the suffering. And that's what

14:25

we teach people to do.

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