ORANG PINTAR Belum Tentu MENANG dalam HIDUP | Realita MENGHANCURKAN EGO ANAK PINTAR - dr. Tirta

If you don't become the best, you will lose for yourself You have a brain to make use of it, my child is only one, you must be the best At least if you are not the best in academia, you are the best in other things And I have to clarify that this target is not for me, this is for you You know if you are not smart, you will not be able to go to campus And the only thing to increase the value of family is through academia And I hold that, I always remember my father's conversation was like this

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I have zero attitude, so I was called by target. So if we are in the PTN and UM, the top level of the doctor. The ego is high, the validation is high.

People like me who are single children, number one academic, the validation is like that. Hello friends, today we have Dr. Tirta Mandira Budi. Tirta, thank you very much for being here. I am honored to be invited here, Mr. Gita. I usually watch from online classes, I can be here, four eyes. You are a very smart child. And tell me, when you were born in Solo, what was your upbringing like? So that

So, friends out there can understand that you like to read books and can do amazing intellectualization. What is the background? One of the privileges that I used to have denial. I used to have denial, so I always shared it when I was in 2014.

I always say that I am from zero. I just accepted it in the phase of 2021 to 2022. And my biggest privilege is education. So my parents are teachers.

My father is an economics teacher at one of the universities in Indonesia. But because of the pivot to income, this is really a pivot to income, and I can say that because my father is a teacher. Pivot to income, my father after 9 years of teaching career, he became a banker in a BPR in Central Java. My father is originally from Javanese, born in Boyolali, Sambi. My mother-in-law is from Wongso, in Medjo.

My father's name is Sutarjo, you can check it out. And my father had, my second privilege, my father had been invited by the late President Habibie in 1998 as an economist who was invited to discuss for the economy condition. So he was really into mathematics and finance. That was my first privilege that I never told. There's a picture. My mother is a farmer, originally Chinese descent from Semarang, Wat Gandul.

He was in the Kumlot Agriculture in UNS, he became an ASDOS. And because his siblings needed money, he pivoted to become a banker. Can you imagine? From science to agriculture, I used to think it was normal when I was in junior high school. I just realized that in high school, the fields of economics and social sciences were separated. So imagine my mother from agriculture, agriculture means the Faculty of Agriculture, not the Department of Public Works in UNS, converted to become a banker.

And my father's mother was from the same generation, in 1958 he was born, and met at Perpus.

So they both have a reading hobby. In Surakarta. They met when they were in college until they became me. And they both didn't want to have two children, they only had one child. Because according to my father's calculation, it was half. It was half, but not below, but not above. Purely half. And my father was the second child. My mother was the first child. And my father was Muslim. My mother was Catholic.

I don't know, I don't want to know, so this disclaimer is for the reticent, I'm sure they'll get angry I don't know how to get married, that's my father's business and I don't want to know and I don't want to find out And to be short, it's a privilege My father had a library this big, it's just a room for books So when I was in elementary school, I was given the student's script Because there was a script to read

From there I have a habit of reading, and my father had invited me to talk from the first grade of elementary school. I always remember talking to my father like this, "Your father is a middle-class person, you are a student at the Catholic University, Kandisius Keprabun II,

All the business children, my father couldn't pay for the teacher's lesson until the third grade, what you can do is you have to study hard because what brings good name to your family is your performance. That's what my father said and can be asked directly to my father because he is still active as a banker so he doesn't want to retire. He's still active, he said if he retired he would be a beggar. He said that and it was brainwashed to me that

Academics will bring, this is my father's point of view at that time Academics will bring the name of a good family And I was brainwashed from the first grade like that I was still ranked 9th in the first grade 9th, 7th, and 6th In the second grade, I started to understand, I was brainwashed by my mother again I said that I lost, I asked for a teacher's license, and finally I was given a teacher's license that was only one In the field of mathematics, in the second grade I was ranked second

I was in the third grade, and I continued to be in the third grade of high school. I was ranked first. And what changed me to be ranked first was because I was invited by my father to work. So my parents, because they were middle school students, could not graduate from ART.

So after I got home, I was taken by a broker named Mr. Nuri. I still remember every person who helped me. His name is Mr. Nuri. Shout out to him. He invited me to my mother's office in Pasar Legi. Because my mother is a banker in a private bank office in a private office. Because the private office in the market is big. There I learned.

learn mathematics, learn math, get along with my friends' work and see what my mom does. So it's true, my friends, companies that can allow their children to work in the office, they produce children like me.

I was shocked to be a director like that. Because my mother's director allowed me to bring my children. So I was in the office for 3 hours, from 1 am to 4 pm. At 4 pm I had my class and then I went home. And I went home with the house key. So I was the most used to it, from the 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th grade. And I was the only one. I was burdened by the target. I didn't have a tamagotchi, so I was targeted. If you want PS1, you have to rank like this.

And I explained that my dad never lied about the target And I explained that this target is not for me, it's for you You know if you're not smart You won't be able to go to campus and the only thing to increase the value of family is through academics And I hold that So yes, in fifth grade I represented the elementary school in Teladan students So there was a competition, if in elementary school there was a competition, the Olympics with Teladan students Because I ranked one straight up until fourth grade, fifth grade

The semester system is only in the fifth grade, I was born in 1991, I was a student in the first year of high school, I was represented in the perlembagaan siswa teradana My teacher was only two, his name was Buati and Pak Suryo, Pak Suryo was my master's degree in mathematics, I always remember my teacher I was in the third largest city in Madia, the first place was SD15, the second place was SD16, it was famous in Surakarta

I was the third winner, SD Canisius. And at that time I was still holding on to the belief that if I was smart I would get scholarship. And at that time Dunkin Donuts, Mr. Gita, if I was the third big, I was given a free donut. Really, I really liked that program. The sugar went up. I didn't know at that time, I knew it was a big SD. Well, because I was the first to sixth grade, the third big, I got scholarship for one year at Pangodilur Bintang Laut High School.

Wow. In Pangudilur Bintang Laut, it was indeed in Selamat Liadi. Back again, as it is, Class 10, Class 9, eh Class 7, I was ranked 1 again in PL.

I was also in the junior high school in Jelarta, in Hajinawi. Wow, that's not cool. In junior high school, I was in the same class. So it's true, from the first phase, I'm a bit long, it's okay. I'm afraid the netizens misunderstand. So my first phase, my parents burdened me with a target from the age of 7 years old.

And that makes it have a negative effect, I told you earlier. In high school, I was still used to the target. As usual, in class 8, I participated in 3 olympiads at the same time. Mathematics Olympiad and Science Olympiad with English. Because of participating in this olympiad, I got a scholarship selection to St. Joseph College. I passed, but I didn't take it because it wasn't the same as the cost of living.

I got my scholarship from Regina Pachis. One more year, at Ursulin, Solo. At Ursulin, I was ranked 1st. And finally I entered the top class, IPA 1st. I didn't enter RSBI because it wasn't there at that time. RSBI was my language generation. International Language School. That's when I started having conflicts with my parents. The negative effect of the target was felt in high school. Because it was a mess. I protested with my parents there. I started

Denial, hate, hate falling because I was annoyed, I was in school for them So it was chaos, chaos, for cases I still remember the head of the school, Mr. Florent, he called my parents many times So I was a top class, smart, but the attitude was zero Often in cases, quarreling with teachers, quarreling with friends, called many times and that made me zero attitude, so I was called Until my father asked to talk to four eyes

That's when my father said, "It's up to you. Whatever you want to be, that's your business." I ran to my friend's house and my friend took me to Gramedia. I'm sorry, Mr. Gita. My friend took me to Gramedia and I read a book called A Child Called It.

The author's name is Dave Pelzer, I still remember the author's name. That's three editions. In the third edition, I read that this is a child who was tortured by his mother. Second, he was saved. Third, he forgave. This is crazy. Dave Pelzer, you can read his book, Dave Pelzer, A Child Called It, that's three editions. The third, he became a pilot and forgave his mother. Because that's where his parents are. From there I started to know that the purpose of people I set a target for, it's for me, not for them.

In the third grade, I entered the Ganesha Operation, there I first joined the BIMBL meeting with students from other countries. There my POV changed. They turned out to be very open and surprised, "Why are you joining the BIMBL?" Not that most Chinese people in Solo don't want to join the BIMBL, that's serious, their attitude is very funny. The GO was in the western city, and there I joined the GO because I was curious, what was the national exam like?

Finally, I took the government office, which seems to have changed my POV if I entered the country. Three debates, my father. My father said, "Wenes, my mother is Wenes." He was afraid that I was a country because I was Chinese. I was married to my father. My father was married to a woman. He was silent. Sorry sir, that was my first time married and my father wasn't angry. Okay, you want a country, you have to be a good country. Okay, I immediately set the goal, initially FK UDIP sir.

FK UDIP, but not the Senem PTN route. Why FK? Because my mother is from Semarang and my mother is a doctor. So if we are in Senem PTN and UM, the major with the highest level is a doctor. The ego is high, the validation is high.

People like me who are single, academic, number one, the validation is like that. Do you feel that it is more than yourself or is it encouraged by the culture in your family? More like culture. Because my father and mother always brainwashed. - To pursue the best. - Always the best. - Perfectionism. - Yes, because with the best you will be appreciated. That's one of the cultural things in my family. Is your father or mother more?

If you are an academic, you are a father. My father always taught that. If my mother is more like, "It's okay, it's okay." Relax, accept it. But if my father is true, if you don't become the best, you will lose for yourself. You have a brain to make use of it. My child is only one, you have to be the best. At least if you are not the best in academia, you are the best in something else. Then finally, okay, the best. And it was brainwashed, until finally okay, I took the FK because this is the best.

I took three directly, UDIP, UGM, ITB, Electro, Electro is the highest. UDIP I received for the MMPTN, it was the self-testing, which was about 120 Star Olympic numbers. Number 4, I received, I was told, because my mother's friend turned out to be a professor of agriculture at UDIP, I was told and received. I'm happy, I was told, I was sent, there was no connection to UGM. So I brought my own legacy to UGM.

So if you know, in the national high school there is a B2B route, so all students are gathered, those who want to register for PTA, then we register for the B2B course,

Because Ursulin didn't have direct contact with UGM at that time, I brought the gas myself. The reason I entered UGM was not because it was better, no, the building was cool. The radio building of Putra, I still remember, I was an Olympiad, the story is there, I was an Olympiad of mathematics in the third class, the last time I was an Olympiad, semester 1. We were excited to see the UGM building.

The reason I entered FK UDIP is because my mother is from Semarang. But the reason I enrolled in UGM is because I was in the UGN. The selection was there and I lost. I lost to Anak Padmanabha, Jogja's third grade. I was number six in number two. So I didn't pass the provincial selection. I still remember the UGN Mathematics. I lost two questions. I was in the B.T. But the building was good. So my assumption was, "Wow, the building is cool. It's like a radio station." And finally what I did, I enrolled. I was accepted at UGM. I wasn't satisfied. I enrolled in FK U4.

and also registered ITB, so I want to know where my capability is and I was accepted at 7 private universities, it's a big show, it's big, entering FK is my third change because it turns out that there are more smart people in FK, I met children from Insan Sendikia, it doesn't go into the brain, it's amazing, Insan, children of Insan, both children of TN, the children are cut into pieces, the girl's hair is like this, but the smart one is curly, sir

I thought it was only Dr. Tirta, Tirta Muda, whose IPK was up to 4.0 until semester 4. No, sir. 60% of the students in FK are in 4 semesters A1. And my biggest competition, I can name 5 SMAs. TN, Incen, SMA 8 Jakarta, 3 Semarang,

3 Jogja and the next one is difficult if the discussion is cringy, so if the discussion is FK, there is a tutorial called cringy, always arguing, it's 3 Bandung, 5 Bandung, 3 Bandung then there are 70, Jakarta, Lab School Ramangun, 1 Teladan, and one I forgot, if I'm not mistaken, from Surabaya, I forgot, now the culture in PTN changed me in total, sir

My parents used to burden me with targets, expectations here. So I graduated from high school, assuming that smart people will definitely be successful. Because again, I tell Panjentuh because my father's brainwash, he thought that smart people would definitely be successful. That's why you become smart to make your life level go up. Then you can be successful. For him, success is

Successful high school student, what is it like to have a lot of money? Turns out the DFK is for smart people. And I was really lucky, the doctor couldn't find money right away. 3.5 years of theory, 3 years 8 months of theory, now 4 years of dictation, 2 years of COAS, 1 year of internship, worked for 2 years, 5 years of specialist, a total of 14 years.

In the third semester, I was so much respected, so my mental health, honestly, before I started talking, I was already in a mess here. Where is the money? And there I started to be realistic, talking to three like this. And my third cultural from the family is, one targeted, the second, earlier one academic, sir, the second targeted, always targeted, the third is open. We discuss three every month.

I said behind my back, "Daddy is 50, Mom is 50, 5 years of retirement, the money for retirement can be spent for specialists, because specialists are 15 million per semester, 5 years are not paid, your son is only one, yes if it works. If I don't look for my own money, we can go to family finance." Wow, I'm realistic, there. Realistic is learning from FK. And finally I made the biggest decision.

In the second semester, I started to play the sales case there. Power balance sales, Jamonol, Blackberry, success.

So, sorry for the illegal blackberry, I sold it first, so the goods came from resellers, then I gave plastic wrap, the money was to be saved to pay for the semester, because the UGM semester was cheap, 2.2 million rupiah per semester, I still remember. At that time, if I'm not mistaken, it was not in the form of a legal body, so it was still subsidized, so 2.2 million rupiah, and I paid for it myself, I paid for the cost myself. So my parents only gave me money, until the end, until the fifth semester, I paid for it all by myself. Young people, 4 EP,

I got my own money, my ego is this big, I got rejected, my ASDOS registration was rejected 4 times, my BIOKIM registration was rejected, my anatomy pathology was rejected, my anatomy was rejected, my C-Scrip was rejected, my ego was destroyed again. So it turns out that what destroys my ego is when I meet smart people. If I meet a not smart person, my ego is really high, always like that. And finally because of that reality, I realized that I was a single child, I had to find money, as much as possible.

Turns out, I was looking for money, I gave money, I jumped into retail. Selling shoes, taking care of people. I met my lecturer, again. The next teacher I changed was a teacher. I met my lecturer, I remember there were three. Almarhum Profiwan, he was the one who was in charge of COVID. He was also the one who was in charge of introducing drugs, if I'm not mistaken, Novomix to BPJS, if I'm not mistaken. Almarhum Profiwan, very good. The second is Dr. Deni, he is a major physiologist at UGM.

The third one was Dr. Govir, a specialist in medicine. The three of them had the same comment. You have trading experience, you are a retailer, you meet a lot of people, doctors are all in charge of patients. Then who is in charge of doctors? My ego is confused there, sir. Because for doctors, the coolest thing is holding a knife. I like IGD. I like to bring drugs, I like to take general drugs, dikes, orthopedics, something that has to do with knives, I like it.

Because it's challenging the blood vessels. And for a doctor, holding a knife is sexy, sir. It's like... It's cool, sir. Like, arteries, muscles, stitches, etc. Three doctors asked me to be a managerial. It means I got it. I graduated from the IPK 38, internship, practiced at IJD Puas. After finishing my internship in 2016, I got a job from someone. I made the biggest decision, dreaming, sir.

My dream was to be an orthopedic doctor and I buried the matter in 2016 Because I saw my father was old and he was honest, I asked honestly, so like, "Mr. Gita, that's my father" And I'm the kind of person who can't filter, so "Dad, if your savings are for specialists, do your parents have savings for vacation?" No, then I said, "I can already find money, my life is over here"

Why not just like this, you spend the money, I said, to go to a country that you have never visited because you deserve to get it, I will find my own money. I couldn't accept it at first. I couldn't accept it. So, we didn't fight, but here I said, the one who accepts is the mother. So the mother's rest is the ACC. Yes, it's okay, you're happy to find money, it's okay. I'll be the one to persuade my father. So finally at the point of 2016, I practiced until 2017, Tok.

In 2017, I dreamed of becoming a doctor, but I didn't die. Because I saw that if I was still an ego specialist, I wouldn't give my father a chance at 58 years old to enjoy his life. My father was 58 years old at that time, he was already in his 60s, he was retired. If I spent the savings for specialists, and specialists are not paid, I would be a specialist. But my father would never go abroad for the rest of his life.

My father once wanted to get a scholarship, at that time I didn't know what it was called, but the tuition fee was only 200, my father couldn't speak English, it was bad, it was really bad, it was worse than me, simple pass-stern was really bad He never went abroad all his life, my father went abroad for the first time when he was 60, wow, if I'm an ego specialist, I'll be a specialist, but my father will never go abroad

I'm realistic there, I'm not a sandwich generation, but they are already lazy, they never spend their life looking at other countries, my father has not dared to do hajj because he was afraid that the money would run out

I paid for it, I can do it this year, if not next year, after I persuaded But at that time there was no thought of looking for a scholarship or something like that? No, because I was embarrassed, I was embarrassed of my friend, my friend had 3 people, so in the FK my ego was hit because the FK changed everything PTN changed me, I met a person named Dr. Sunardi, it can be called here, Dr. Sunardi is the father of Juru Kunci, Galikubur, S3, in Kobe

He was a person who was not able to get a scholarship and so that he could get a life, he summarized his studies. Then sold through summary magazine to other students so that they don't need to print slide and read the summary he made. He graduated late because he did research so that his study could be paid continuously. Because I met many people whose parents were more incapable than my parents.

I was ashamed of myself if I took a scholarship but my friend's position was like this, my parents were still able to find money. My friend's parents had already brought me the ability. If I forced my ego again at that time, I was like taking a chance from people, it was a dilemma for me. So I decided that I think I can still live alone, I can find money alone. So finally I didn't dare to take that scholarship until now.

Because I was still able to do it. Because I was looking for money, I dreamed of managing people. 25 years is the fourth change, what is it called? The child of fame.

A famous kid, something I never imagined. So for 26 years I started to be invited to seminars in Jogja because of the shoe washing business. Then I was a doctor, so I was invited to universities and Instagram started to have 100,000 followers. Because Instagram started to be active in 2013 and I did personal branding in 2017. The ego is high, in 2020, Dr. Tirta will be the one who tells us that everything is mistaken.