Teman Yang Membuatmu Jauh Dari Allah - Ust. Hanan Attaki, Lc

Have you ever unfriend someone on TikTok or Facebook? What is the term for TikTok? Unfollow? The point is, we often unfriend on social media, right? We often unfollow on social media. Or in the group, it's called a live group.

Why do we leave our group, unfollow, unfriend, and not subscribe to another channel or account? Why? Because we don't think it's beneficial to follow that. Maybe he's not funny anymore, maybe he's not entertaining anymore, maybe he's not inspiring anymore, maybe he's not fun anymore.

Maybe he doesn't give us what we need from information. Often he posts about accidents but there is no caption. Finally we get the caption from the comment. If you want to know where the accident happened, read it in the comment, not read it in the caption. Finally we unfollow, we don't follow the account again. It also happens in our daily lives, friends.

We often don't befriend someone, avoid someone, forget someone, get angry with someone. That is the dynamic of life. But the question now is, what is it for us to befriend? What is it for us to not follow one account? What is it for us to be in a group? We need to ask that if we want to be a more productive person in our daily lives.

If we want our faith to be more stable when it goes up and down, we need to ask, "What is it for that we follow one account?" "What is it for that we are in one group?" "What is it for that we are friends with one person or one group of people, a circle?" What is our purpose? We need to evaluate our friendship.

One of the reasons why we are friends, as taught by Rasulullah SAW, is that friends should be our support system in our lives. Friends should be our support system in our faith. Friends should be our support system in our worship. Friends should be our behavior support system.

So if we have good support systems, InsyaAllah we will always be kept in obedience and obedience. Because we can't be alone. We can't be a hijrah alone. We can't be a true person alone. We can't be a successful person alone. If we want to be a true person,

want to migrate, want to pray, want to be obedient, want to be multa dayin, multa zim, istiqomah then one of the things we really need is a support system and who is our best support system? among them is our circle of friends

That is the meaning of the Prophet in the hadith, "Al mar'u ala dini khalilih" "Someone depends on the religion of his close friend." If I translate this hadith in the language of the young people, someone depends on the circle of his friend.

Who is the closest circle? Who is the one person? Who is the person who meets with him everyday? Who is the person who chats with him everyday? Who is the person who appears in his FYP? Who is the person who appears in his trending topic? That is what determines the condition, religion, and the condition of someone in life. Who is the closest circle?

So from there, the scholars translated, oh, it means that when someone wants to migrate, he needs what is called bi'ah solihah. Bi'ah is, in general translation, means environment. In the translation of young people, it means circle. He needs what is called al-bi'ah as-solihah, positive circle.

Or it can also be translated as "as-sohbah as-soliha" "good companionship" That determines whether we are good or not And this for me is more influential than formal school sometimes More influential I invite educators, parents, and community leaders To be more concerned about building this in our young people's education in Indonesia

We are constantly building madrasahs, and that's good. We are constantly building a school building, that's also good. We are constantly building TPAs, and places to study, that's also good. But do we know that some of the patterns that we built for the educational facilities earlier, have a gap with the general young people? For example, how old are people who study at TPA? It's usually up to 6th grade.

When he was in the first grade, he started to be far from TPA. When he started to enter SMA, he rarely did the ngaji. He even couldn't do ngaji. He started to skip the prayer. The last time he prayed was in the sixth grade. Then who will control his piety if he no longer accesses TPA, no longer go to school in the madrasah, and no longer go to the church?

He doesn't access mosques anymore. He doesn't access any formal or non-formal Islamic institutions. Then who controls his behavior, his piety, his worship, his obedience to Allah? The one who controls is the circle of companionship. So one of the mission of young children's da'wah is to form a positive circle of companionship as many as possible and as big as possible.

to become one of the informal education models. Formal is already there, non-formal is already there. What is less aggressive is informal education. What is informal education? Education that is not structured, not curricular, but naturally can influence young people in their behavior and obedience. And that is one of them, the Circle of Friendship.

That's why when I made the trend da'wah in Bandung, I didn't make a trend message but I spread the message through the trend. That's my trend message. I didn't make a trend message but I spread the message through the trend. So I made a trend and the message was thrown into the trend. Like today, TikTok is very successful in creating trends. What is trending?

And the trend was followed by influencers, tiktokers, and celebrities. It was massive in Indonesia. Young people started to act like what became trending.

So, this trend da'wah is one of the patterns that I use as a method for young people's da'wah. Spread the message through the trend. What was the message at that time? In 2014, I tried to spread the message of migration to be a trend in the community. Finally, migration became a trend, massive in all of Indonesia.

Then what is done in this migration trend? In addition to we are publishing trending content about migration, we actually silently build as many positive young people circles. Then there are communities of migration in all of Indonesia that they are not affiliated with me.

He is not a branch of my youth movement. Why? If he is a branch, it means he is an organization. And the organization is formal. The pattern is not like that. I deliberately said, "Don't make branches."

You are not part of us, it's just an initiative, you can find your own name. There are those who say what migration is, what migration is, and so on. Finally, this community becomes a kind of positive circle of young people after they emigrated. And that's how we build the informal education of young people. There are those who build a community, for example, anti-dating.

Even though there are many names, there is one called Jomblo Visabilillah, which we use as a term for young people, it became a movie, it was on the screen yesterday, the name of the movie was Jomblo Visabilillah. With Republika, Jomblo Visabilillah was also named as an event organizer and community.

They created a community, meaning people who don't want to date but are not ready to live alone, their temptation is strong, they are not strong enough to forget their ex. Who is the one who strengthens them in this status of hijrah?

the community, with friends, giving each other motivation, words that inspire each other, giving each other information where there are studies, they gather, they share, that is the education of young people today, Mr. and Mrs. In addition to education that is built through social media platforms, our young people today are longer on the screen than on TPA, on TPA it's only an hour and a half, but

their screen time, their screen time is probably more than 2 hours per day. If we want to think objectively, who is more shaped by our children today? By their TPA, which is not even full for an hour and a half, because of the replacement with his friend. At most, he has 5 minutes to meet his teacher. Meanwhile, in front of the screen, he is private, 2 hours non-stop, YouTube, short,

TikTok, all kinds of things. He watched the short video for more than two hours a day. The screen time. Who is the one who formed Mentarbiah? Be a teacher, mentor, kiai, guru, ustad, a guide for our children. Social media. We are not able to make

social media platform that suits the needs of the Muslim community at least then we appear on social media as influencers not as celebrities but as influencers influence, inspire, invite, that's the function of influencers

Then after that, what? First, we appear on social media as influencers. Second, we build as many as possible circles of young people's friendship based on hobbies or anything that is interesting to young people. It must be facilitated by the mosque. It must be facilitated by the government.

in that village or the governor of that area, facilitated, supported, stimulated, and observed. For example, the mosque is aware, attentive to the young people. Can the Miftahul Jannah mosque be a place for young people to hang out? What can we do from the potential around the mosque? Oh, we have unused land. Try to make it into a mini-soaker. Try to make it into a food stall. It must be next to the mosque.

Try to make a cafe that is managed by young people. The one who breaks the prayer time first. The young people will be educated to become baristas. The young people will be educated about hospitality. They work in a cafe, they start to be independent, they have income.

In the cafe, they will be given tables that are provided for example, history books or simple books that are thin, pocket books. So when they are hanging out, they open funny books while they can be used as a topic for discussion. Stimulated. And this needs attention from the mosque, from the government, from the people, from us, the parents.

If not, they will look for other places that are not conditioned. They can talk about pornography, LGBT, negative things, even drug. Why? Because we only focus on one conventional instrument, which is madrasah or TPA in the mosque.

which is not accessible by the general youth. So, we don't want to provide a place to play in the mosque, but the mosque is more aware of the needs of the young people. Finally, who plays futsal? The young people. Who knows, later there will be a kind of gathering after playing futsal, let's just play for 10 minutes, the book of Riyadus Shalihin or the book of Arba'in Nawawiyah, the light ones first.

One hadith, then they play futsal. Later they will know what is Islam, what is faith, what is Ihsan, what is Tasawwuf. They learn slowly. Guided by a young Ustad who also plays with them. That's an amazing influence.

My personal experience, Alhamdulillah, Allah has destined to emigrate 4 motor gangs in West Java. One motor gang has about 50,000 members. So there are about 200,000 to 250,000 members of motor gangs, not motor clubs. Because these are two different things. Sometimes we like to go back. Motor club likes to ride motorbike. If motor gang likes to fight, not like to ride motorbike.

For motor club, the activity is touring, that's a motor club. For motor gang, the activity is gambling, gambling. So, there's a difference between motor club and motor gang. Motor gang is gangster. For motor club, it's a community. There were four motor gangs in West Java and at that time, it was quite crowded, quite worrisome. Some of them also joined football supporters, so there were a lot of fights in football matches, there were victims of the soul, all kinds of things. We emigrated, what's our pattern?

Our pattern is not to make ta'lim like this. This is for those who have migrated. For those who have not migrated, our pattern is to pick up the ball. We come to their place, I come to their place, I play with them. That's why my appearance, even today I wear sarong. Wear semi-batik clothes. Usually I don't wear sarong, I don't wear semi-batik clothes because I want to play with them. I wear a kuppluk because this is a symbol of street youth with the culture of Rastafarian, it's called.

I studied their world, I researched about street culture, what is Rastafarianism, what is the difference between Rastafarianism and reggae songs, and so on. I studied it and finally the da'wah pattern appeared. When I went to Japan, I played snowboard. Why did I play snowboard? Because I wanted to preach to the original Japanese people, not the Indonesian people who live in Japan. Finally, I was playing snowboard, I finished playing snowboard,

I made it like a simple sharing, there are Japanese people who are present and listening, then translated into Japanese. It turns out that without my knowledge, this Japanese person, after my event, became interested in Islam, and finally he converted to Islam. It happened in 2018. In 2023, after the pandemic, I went to Japan again, played snowboard, and met him. He was looking for me. He said, "Ustad," translated into Japanese, "Ustad."

I used to listen to Ustadz's sermon, not sermon, but he listened to the conversation with Ustadz when he was playing snowboard. Snowboard is like skiing. And Alhamdulillah I entered Islam. Then now I have become a mosque imam in Tokyo. Mosque imam. From entering Islam, learning to pray, until becoming a mosque imam and a sensei. Sensei is like becoming Ustadz.

So, the kiai in the mosque taught Japanese about Islam and some of them started to learn Islam more routinely. This is called "Jemput Bola". What is the reason for the ta'lim? Not because of the madrasah, because it is not accessible to the public, but through the circle of companionship.

For you, young people, try to find a friend who can support your faith. When you follow an account, when you choose a WA group, when you subscribe to a YouTube channel, when you sit together with another group of young people, try to choose, is there a circle of friends who can support my faith? If not, then look for it. If not, then make one.

Because you cannot become a person of the commandment if you cannot do it yourself. You must have a circle. And that's what we heard from the story of a murderer who killed 100 people. After he killed 99 people, he came to a priest, a worshiper, and asked, "I have killed 99 people, can I still repent?"

The worshipers said, "You cannot repent because you have committed many sins." "Your sins are too much." "You have killed many people." "You will never be able to receive your repentance." Because he was desperate and angry, he killed 100 people. But he still felt uncomfortable. He still wanted to repent, wanted to change. He looked for someone else to consult. He met a scholar. He asked, "Yes, Sheikh."

I have killed a hundred people, even the hundred are worshipers. Can I repent? The Sheikh said, "Do not give up on the mercy of Allah. Whatever your sins are, even if it is in heaven and earth, Allah will forgive your sins if you repent and Allah does not care how many sins you have."

He just knew that Allah is the Most Forgiving. Allah is very generous and merciful. Finally, he said, "If so, I want to repent. Give me guidance. Give me guidance. What should I do? Repent or emigrate." Then this scholar said, "If you want to improve yourself, leave this country and go to a country where there are many pious people. Because if you still live here, you will not be strong.

Your repentance will not be a blessing. Your migration will not be complete. You have to leave a country that has a lot of bad influence on you. Go to a country where the people there are pious and obedient. Finally, he migrated. And we know that in the middle of the journey he died. Then the angels pulled him. One wanted to take him to hell, the other wanted to take him to heaven. Then Allah said, "Try to measure. Where is he closer?"

The place where he died is closer to the country he is heading to or the country he is leaving. If it is closer to the country he is leaving, then he enters hell. If it is closer to the country he is heading to, then he enters heaven. Finally, the angel measures the distance where he is leaving with the distance of the country he is leaving or the country he is heading to.

Allah said to the earth, "Bring him closer to the land that he is heading to as the mercy of Allah." Finally, after being measured, he was closer to the land that he was heading to, then he was brought into the heaven of Allah SWT. What is the lesson from this scene? The simple lesson is that no matter how strong his desire to repent is,

He has been looking for a teacher from one place to another. He has been looking for a teacher so that he can repent. He really wants to repent. It turns out that even if he repents, if he doesn't have a positive circle, he won't be strong. Even though his azam is strong.

The desire is strong, especially when we are still in the process of migration, when the repentance is still empty, when the repentance is still a one-time repentance, and the next day is a kumat.

He is the one who has a great repentance, he really wants to repent. His teacher said, "You will not be strong, you will not be in a coma if you still live here. Hijrahlah, look for a circle, suhbah, bi'ah, environment, community that can strengthen your hijrah or repentance." Then finally he looked for that circle. If he is alone, he will not be strong.

That is the meaning of Allah's message in the Qur'an when Allah says in Surah At-Taubah, verse 119. "O you who believe!" O you who believe! This is not "O you human beings!" It means that the belief is good, the belief is right. "O you who believe!" O you who believe! "Faithful to Allah!"

O you who believe, be faithful to Allah O you who believe, be firm, steadfast, and steadfast in the path of Allah How to be faithful, steadfast, and steadfast? Allah says, وَكُنُوا مَعَ الصَّادِكِينَ What does it mean? Be faithful

Kuno means, "Be yourself." What does it mean? "Be yourself." So, it means there is a result. It's not just having a friend, meeting them once. No. But it's formed by friendship. Formed by the group. Formed by the congregation. Formed by the friends. Formed so that they become faithful people.

"Kunum as-sadikin" "Always be with you" "Be with you" "Be friends with you" "Be with you" "Ma'a" "Ma'a" means to take care of friends Always be there Always be together Never leave Who should we be together with? "As-sadikin" The righteous person The meaning of righteous person? The one who always hold on to the truth That is the righteous person

And this verse is a command, how important it is to find a good friend, until Allah commands, "Qunu ma'a as-sadiqin" "Enter the group of the righteous people." What's your problem? "Ustadh, I want to recite the Quran, but I've never passed the Al-Baqarah." "I just read one page, it's enough." "Read another page, it's enough." "When is the khatam, ustadh? I can't read the Quran."

I joined a group of people who are diligent in reading the Qur'an. One day one juz, one day one and a half juz, and then one month, two months, three months, and then it's over. "Ustaz, it's really hard for me to wake up in the morning. I always do the morning prayer with Dhuha prayer. And it's been 10 years since I've been doing the morning prayer with Dhuha prayer. So what should I look for? Find a group of friends who are diligent in doing the morning prayer.

"I'm still in a relationship, I want to be a person who is in a coma, who enters one of the seven groups of humans who get the favor of Allah from the Mashar. The second is Shabun, who grows in obedience to Allah. I'm not in a relationship, Ustaz, but I'm not brave to break up my girlfriend."

Finally, be friends with those who have experience in that field. "Ustaz, I'm afraid of being a rebel." Be friends with those who have experience in leaving the rebel and successfully survive with their life trials. Find friends who can support us in the good deeds. Those who are diligent in reciting, those who are diligent in going to the mosque, those who have often attended ta'lim, those who have been wearing hijab,

"I want to wear hijab, but I'm embarrassed." Why are you embarrassed? Because your friend is not wearing hijab. So you feel embarrassed among your friends who are not wearing jilbab, who are not covering their faces. So look for a friend who can support you to cover your face perfectly. Even when we have a good friend with a jilbab, we will be embarrassed if our jilbab is not in accordance with the sharia.

For example, a jilbab whose neck is still visible. Or a jilbab whose ears are still visible. Because there are good antics, like giving a girlfriend. Like she doesn't want to be seen. Finally, the jilbab is dressed like this, her ears are visible. Or a jilbab that is a bit arrogant. A tornado jilbab, which is rolled up. There is also a jilbab of the dead shark, which is tied on the neck.

There are many types of jilbab. But because of the circle, the jilbab is good, it covers the chest, whatever the model is, some are Arab style, some are Turkish style, some are very Indonesian style. What's important is that the value covers the aura well, not wrapping the aura. Finally, he will be motivated to fix his clothes. Men will also be motivated to

Closing his aura as a man, which is the boundary between his hips and knees. If he wears pants, okay, inside he wears leggings when swimming, when playing futsal. Because his friends are good at closing their aura. It all depends on friends.

It all depends on friends. So Allah SWT said, "O you who believe, trust Allah and be with the truthful." O you who believe, trust Allah and be with the righteous." Dear friends, one afternoon, a friend named Hanzalah,

He was sitting on the side of the road while he was holding his head like this. Like a sad person. He sat with his head, both hands, he held his head. He was angry, sad, and having a lot of problems. When Han Zola was alone on the side of the road, suddenly his friend Han Zola passed by, his name was Abu Bakar As-Siddiq. Abu Bakar then sat next to Han Zola and asked, "Han Zola, why are you like this?"

What are you sad about? What is your problem? What is your problem, O Hanzalah? Then Hanzalah said, O Abu Bakar, why did you say you are a hypocrite?

If I meet the Prophet, I sit beside the Prophet, I feel my faith rise up, it's amazing. It's as if I can smell the fragrance of heaven. My distance to heaven is only a short distance, O Abu Bakar.

But when I go home, I go to the market, I go far from the Messenger, my faith goes down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down,

Even the hypocrites, "Innal munafiqinna fid-darkil asfali minannar" The hypocrites are in the asfal of hell. Asfal. What is asfal? The lowest place that is trampled. The Arabic language becomes the Indonesian language. Asfal. Because we can't say "fa" and it becomes asfal.

"Innal munafiqin fiddarqil asfal minannar" "The munafiqin are in the lowest place of hell" "The lowest place of hell" So when Hanzalah said, "Nafaklah Hanzalah, munafiq is already Hanzalah" Abu Bakar was surprised.

"Mazatakul ya hanzalah" You are not wrong to say that you are a hypocrite. It turns out that what he claims is that his faith is too extreme. If it's going up, it's like it's in heaven. If it's going down, it's like it's in hell. How is this, O Abu Bakar?

As a good friend, Abu Bakar did not scold Han Zola. He did not say, "You are the master of hell, what is your base?" and so on. No, Abu Bakar is a good friend. He did not judge, did not accuse, "Bid'ah, hell, misguidance." He was gentle. What is Abu Bakar's words? "Han Zola, I am also like that."

This is called friendship. Not to teach, but to want to be the same friend. I am the same, O Lord. I also feel the same. Am I also a munafiq, O Lord? Oh, how is this? Finally, Ubaqar said, how about we ask directly to the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him. That is the function of a friend. He doesn't always have an answer to our questions. But at least he is worthy of us to find the answer.

So, our friend doesn't have to be a scholar, a scholar, a scholar. Maybe there is a gap in age and knowledge that we don't dare to be friends with them. It's difficult. So, who can be friends with us if they don't have an answer? At least they will invite us to find an answer. "Fas'alu ahladhikri inguntum la ta'alamun" Ask the scholars if we don't understand. Finally, Abu Bakar said, "Yes, Han Zola, I am also like that."

"I am also like that, O Han Zallah." It seems that Abu Bakar wanted to make Han Zallah's heart bigger if they were the same. How about we ask the Messenger of Allah? Finally, they both came to the Messenger. Asked the Messenger, finally the Messenger of Allah said, "That is faith, up and down."

If your faith is in a state of constant rising, like when you were with me, you will find angels in charge of your hands with you, O Hanzalah. But, Sa'atan fa Sa'atan. Faith is sometimes rising, sometimes it goes down. Sometimes it rises, sometimes it goes down. That's the normal human.

What does the Prophet mean in this sentence? The meaning is, "So do not be alone, O Allah, do not be alone. Often you should be with the right person, at least with Abu Bakar. If you can meet more often with Rasulullah, with Rasulullah. So what?

There are times when faith is rising, okay, you can do it yourself. How about when faith is falling? You need the Messenger of Allah, you need Abu Bakar, you need Umar, you need Uthman, Ali, and the rest of the friends who are in a coma. You need them, O Hanzalah.

Because faith is Saatan Fa Saatan In another hadith Yaziduwayangkus Sometimes it goes up Sometimes it goes down So if it goes down You will not be able to do it yourself Wahyanzalah Or you are in the wrong circle Wahyanzalah In the wrong friendship Wahyanzalah Then you will be the wrong person Not the righteous person Because faith Saatan Fa Saatan There is a time like this There is a time like that That's Hanzalah

Do we know who Han Zola is? An extraordinary friend. A righteous person. Some scholars say, even though some say he is a different person, but some say he is the same person. He is the Resul of the Angels. The one who is bathed by the angels. The one who when he died, he was bathed with water from heaven by the angels. Han Zola Resul of the Angels.

But people like this, it turns out, can't be self-sufficient. A class of Hanjolah can't be self-sufficient. A class of Abu Bakar can't be self-sufficient. A class of Umar can't be self-sufficient. Their piety is with, "Wa tawa sawbil haqi, wa tawa sawbi sobr." Must be with a circle that can strengthen each other in truth and patience. That's Hanjolah. Likewise, Abu Umamah.

One day Abu Umama sat in the mosque for a long time. Then the Prophet asked Abu Umama, "O Abu Umama, why do I often see you in the mosque even though it is not time for prayer?"

It's not the time for Salat, why do you often go to the mosque, Abu Umama? What is Abu Umama's answer? Ya Rasulullah, humumun waduyyunun. Humumun waduyyunun, Ya Rasulullah. I'm having a lot of problems, I'm sad, Ya Rasulullah. I'm having a problem, Ya Rasulullah. I'm having debt, Ya Rasulullah. That's why he just wanders around the mosque. He doesn't have any friends. Finally, the Prophet sat beside Abu Umama, the Prophet said, "Ala u'allimuka kalimat."

إذا قلتها في الصبح ومساء أذهب الله همومك ودفع الله ديونك Do you want me to teach you a sentence? If you delay this reading every morning and evening, Allah will remove your sadness and will pay your debt. What is it, Rasulullah? Abu Umama said. Say it every morning and evening. اللهم إني أعوذ بك من الهم والحزن

"And from the wickedness and the wickedness, and from the wickedness and the wickedness, and from the debt of debt and the men's malice." said Abu Umama after I continued the prayer in the morning and in the evening. "Allah has removed my sadness and Allah has paid my debts." What is the lesson here?

The lesson here is that when we are upset, when we are sad, maybe we don't find a solution in our lives. But we at least find the strength to face our problems. Where do we find that strength so that we don't give up? From our closest friend. Fortunately, Abu Umama, his friend is Rasulullah. That's why they are known as Sahabat, Sahabat Nabi, because they are friends with the Prophet. Not only know, but they are friends with the Prophet.

Being friends means communicating, talking, asking for advice, listening to tausiyah, defending the Prophet, serving the Prophet, they become the helpers of the Prophet, they fulfill the Prophet's commandments, like Abdullah ibn Mas'ud and Anas bin Malik. They are close friends with the Prophet, from the time of Zama'ah to the time of the Prophet, so that they are motivated by the Prophet. Wherever they go, the Prophet gives them motivation. That is the importance of being close friends.

Find a friend, find a teacher who can be a friend. It means that being a friend is not a leap, right? Being a friend means that we are very close to that teacher. If we just listen to what he says, the teacher will not be present when we have problems, right? When you have problems, do I exist? No, I'm just on stage. It means that you need a friend, a teacher who can be a friend. Start with him. Just like Prophet Musa and Prophet Khidir.

"Can I join you, O Prophet Khidir?" "Can I join you?" Not "Can I join Ta'lim?" No. "Join" here is "Mulazamah" close to the Guru. In Pondok, the term is "Derek"

Or maybe a manut, or in plain language, serve his teacher. What is the need of his teacher? Someone serves his teacher by being Kiai's driver, someone becomes Kiai's assistant. Do you know that he is actually the luckiest person among all his students?

Why? His student only listened to his advice on stage, but he was full in a few hours, maybe 20 hours a day or 18 hours a day, and then with his teacher, seeing his teacher was reciting, he was motivated to recite. Seeing his teacher was reciting, if his teacher is a Hafiz, he was motivated to recite, even though only two or three letters.

Seeing his teacher pray on time, so he was motivated to pray on time. Seeing his teacher's good morals in dealing with others, he also imitates the goodness of those morals. That is the best education, more than when he is in the pondok. In the pondok he learns theory, learns shariah, but here he learns the truth. He learns tasawwuf, he learns riyadhah, he learns suluk directly with his murshid, his teacher.

So we need a teacher who becomes a Murshid, not just a teacher who becomes a Muallim. What is the difference between a Muallim and a Murshid? A Muallim teaches knowledge, a Murshid teaches life. Because Al-Irshad or Al-Rujdu in Arabic means "Husnut tasarruf fishay" which means "Rujdun".

I used to learn Tafsir in Egypt. So, we learn Tafsir by word. What does Rushd mean? The word of the Ulamas. Rushdun means?

"Husnut tasarrufisyaik" "Good in doing, practicing, doing something" That's called "Rushdun" So the person who becomes the guide in the word "Rushdun" is called "Murshid" Today, for example, my "Murshid" is One of my "Murabi" is Yai Marzuki Mustamar from Malang He is my "Murshid" What did he teach me? Not "Fiki" theory, I have learned it in Pondok 6 years before going to Egypt

I studied in Egypt for 4 years, I took the title of Al-Quran teacher. Not the knowledge of Sharia that was taught, but given practices, the permission of dhikr, the permission of practice, given the riyadh, taught about attitude, taught about the pattern of thinking. That's called a Murshid, that's called an irshadat, that's called a guide in acting.

And that is the circle we need. Find a teacher who is a murshid. Don't just be a teacher or a muallim who teaches theory. That is also important. But what we often lose is the murshid. All the companions used to have a murshid. Their main murshid was Rasulullah. After Rasulullah, they were in irshadah, they learned according to their needs. There is someone who started the Qur'an with whom? Abdullah ibn Mas'ud. The Prophet said,

"Whoever wants to learn the Qur'an as it was revealed to him, i.e. the reading of Jibril, the retinue as read by Jibril, then try to learn the Qur'an from Abdullah ibn Mas'ud."

So not all of them learn directly from the Prophet. They also have teachers other than the Prophet who have been blessed by the Prophet. Finally, tomorrow morning, Abu Bakar, Umar came to Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud's house to learn the Qur'an from the beginning of Al-Fatiha, it was repaired. "Oh Abdullah, how does Jibril read Al-Fatiha?" Abdullah wants to exemplify. This is how Jibril reads Al-Fatiha. Jibril is the example.

How did Jibril read Al-Ikhlas? This is how Jibril read Al-Ikhlas. Where did Jibril do wakaf? Here, Jibril did wakaf. How did Jibril read the letter Kasrah? How did Jibril read the letter Tauhim, Tarkikh, and so on? They learned directly from Abdullah ibn Mas'ud. Who wants to be prayed by the angels? Then read the Quran like Abu Musa al-Ash'ari and also Usaid bin Hudair. Finally, they came to Usaid. They came to

Abu Musa al-Ash'ari. There is another popular story. The Prophet was sitting with his friends. Then suddenly the Prophet said, Wait a minute, there is a man passing by and he is a person from heaven. Finally the friends waited. Where is the man? When passing by, the man answered, he was not known at all. We only know his name if we read the hadith. Because in the hadith, the name is not mentioned. So much that it is not known. Passed by a man answered,

The companions asked, "Is he the Messenger of Allah?" "Yes, he is the Messenger of Allah." "Yes," said the Messenger of Allah, "he is the one, the one of heaven." He was marked by his companions, tagged by his companions. The next day, he was in the mosque, the Prophet said, "Wait, a man passed by and he is the one of heaven." Three days in a row with the same sentence, the Prophet actually asked his companions to learn from him. That's called irshadat, looking for murshid, looking for a circle.

He learned from him. The Prophet said it like that, but he spoke in a soft language. He is a heavenly person. Finally, a friend was curious. His name is Abdullah bin Amru bin Az. His son is Amru bin Az.

"Go Abdullah to that man's house with my reason, my father was expelled, I can't stay here for 3 nights." He stayed there, he studied. He didn't study theory, he didn't study fiqh. He was studying about life. That's called Rushdun, Murshid. He studied, what did he do at night? Why did he say he was a heavenly person? What did he do in the afternoon? Why did he say he was a heavenly person? After he studied, he didn't get anything.

No tahajud at night, no sadaqah at noon, no scholar, no jihad scholar, nothing special from that man. If he prays, he prays normally, right at the right time, in the mosque. Okay, that's normal, everyone does it at that time. Different now. Finally, after being taught for three nights, he didn't find anything special. Abdullah said to that man, "My brother, if I may be honest, I wasn't expelled by my father."

I'm just curious because the Prophet said three times in a row, "You are a person of heaven." I want to learn from you, what is your secret practice? What is your daily life? What do you do so that you are guaranteed to enter heaven by the Messenger of Allah? And that means a guarantee from Allah. But I didn't find anything. You are not a worshiper at night. You are not a pious person in the afternoon. You are not a scholar. What is your advantage? Do you know what the answer is?

He said, "I have never been jealous of anyone else." That was his advantage. He entered heaven not with his evil deeds, but he entered heaven with his spiritual deeds.

What is his spiritual practice? Never jealous of others. When others get pleasure, he is grateful. "Alhamdulillah, O Allah, my neighbor bought a house, bought a car, went on Hajj, walked, and so on. Add followers. Alhamdulillah, O Allah." He is the one who is grateful. When others get a disaster, he is the one who is sad. "O Allah, please help my brother. Poor him." And so on. His heart is clean. There is no jealousy towards others.

So, about him, Allah described the character of the Ansar, "And there is no feeling of remorse in their hearts for anyone else." Finally, Abdullah bin Amru got a Rujdun. Got a clue about how we should guard our hearts and feelings to others. That's called Rujdun. There's another scene.

The Prophet gave advice to Sayyidah Faltimah, his beloved daughter, to look for a Murshid, a Murabbi. The Prophet said, "O Faltimah, learn from Asma, because Asma is a person from heaven." Who is Asma meant by the Prophet? Not Asma bint Abi Bakrin. Because Asma bint Abi Bakrin is Sayyidah Aisyah's sister, also a person from heaven. But what the Prophet meant was Asma bint Umais. Have you heard of this name?

Asma bint Umais, the woman of heaven, who married three men, all three of them are heaven's people. This is a great Asma. A woman who married three heaven's people. The first husband is heaven's people, the second husband is heaven's people, the third husband is heaven's people. How is it, Ustadz? Who is the first husband? The first husband is Ja'far. Ja'far is a prophet's wife. The second husband is?

Abu Bakar and his third husband was Ali bin Abi Talib after Fatimah passed away. The first husband was Shahid, Ja'far, Tayyar, then married Abu Bakar. Abu Bakar died, married Ali. That is Asma, the woman who married three heaven's people and she herself is a heaven's people.

That's why the Prophet said to Fatima, At that time, Asma was still with Ja'far, Fatima was still with Ali. The Prophet said, "O Fatima, my dear daughter, learn from Asma." Finally, Fatima went to Asma's house. When she arrived at Asma's house, Fatima said, "O Asma, the Prophet asked me to learn from you because you are a person of heaven. Teach me how to do deeds that make you a person of heaven." Asma was surprised, "O Rasulullah's daughter,

"There is nothing I can compare to you." That was Fatima, one of the four perfect women on earth. Her daughter was Rasulullah, her daughter was Khadijah. What is Fatima lacking? But she was still told to learn from Asma because there was one advantage of Asma that Fatima did not have at that time. Rasulullah did not want to tell her. He told Fatima to learn from Asma. Finally, Fatima forced her. "O Asma, it is impossible that Rasulullah is wrong. Try to think again. What have you been practicing all this time?"

What do you rely on to face Allah, to return to Allah? Asma said, "Okay, dear Fatima. There is one thing that I rely on in my life and hopefully that is what I will bring back to Allah. What is it? I always worship my husband, Ja'far. Every time my husband comes home, I bow to him with the best bow.

I use the most expensive skincare for my husband. If I send a photo to my husband, I give him a lot of filters until he becomes an avatar. I wear the clothes that my husband likes the most. This is a contemporary translation. Even though there was no skincare, no filter. It means he is determined to

His husband, so that when my husband comes home, he is happy to see me. And I remember the Prophet said, one of the characteristics of a pious woman is that there are three. One of them is, If a man or husband sees her, her husband is happy to see her. Because she is smiling, smiling, acting happily for her husband. That is Asma.

If Ja'far wants to go home, he is ready to go. He is wearing the best clothes, he is wearing a lot of perfume. Then he took a shower first, he took a bath, and so on. He welcomed Ja'far as if he was welcoming a king who just came home from a journey.

When Ja'far arrived home, Asma cooked the food that Ja'far liked the most. Asma stood up, didn't want to sit as long as Ja'far ate. Ja'far said, Asma, just sit. No, no, what else do you need, Ja'far? I became a servant for my husband when he was eating. What did he need? I stood up. I didn't want him to wait when he needed something. That's why he stood up.

If her husband needs something, she will go and get it. She doesn't want her husband to wait longer. After my husband ate, O Fatima, I boiled water for my husband to take a bath with warm water. I washed his body with a towel that was wet with warm water. After he finished everything, I took a bowl of water from the kitchen. I gave it to Ja'far, my husband. I said, O Ja'far, O my husband.

If today there is still one of your rights that I have not fulfilled, there is still my service that is still lacking, beat me with this sapulid, O Ja'far. So that Allah forgives my sins. Ja'far never beat Asma, just Ja'far hugged Asma with full love.

Then Fatima realized why there was a sapulid hanging on the wall of their house. It turns out that it is not for cleaning, but to clean the sin of asma if she feels that there is something lacking in her service to her husband. Then Fatima realized, "Oh, I haven't done this to Ali bin Abi Talib." When she came home, Fatima hung a sapulid on the wall. When Ali came home,

What is Fatima for? "O Ali, if there is something that is lacking from me, hit me with this sapulidi." Ali was moved. "O Fatima, MashaAllah." He was hugged by Ali and Ali loved Fatima more. So, Fatima became the best woman of the four on earth. Who did she learn from? Apart from her father, Rasulullah, she also learned from

His friend, or his friend, named Asma bint Umais, who will eventually become the wife of his husband, his wife, Ali bin Abi Talib. What is his lesson here? It turns out that what formed Fatima was not only ta'lim with the Prophet, but also the company of Asma bint Umais.

It's important to be friends, it's important to have a circle, it's important to maintain and maintain good friendships. If you have friends who don't like gossip, God willing, we can keep the distance. But if a friend just gathers, just meets, and immediately says, "Hey, do you know?" We will be stung. Once it's opened with the password, "Do you know?" It's long, the story. Later it will be continued with, "What? I didn't expect it, huh?" It's getting longer.

then find a friend who can keep our loyalty to Allah SWT like the stories I just told you hopefully we can have a positive circle one, a friend who is frequent

Second, a Murshid, a Guru who can guide us not only about knowledge but also about life. Find a Guru like that, find a friend like that. Take care of them, do good to them, take their heart, make us their beloved, remembered by them, close to them and that must sacrifice. Don't want to be close to a Guru but we never sacrifice anything.

He wanted to be close to the Guru but we didn't try to serve him. We can't be close. We must start the Zama'ah like Abdullah ibn Mas'ud. Every time the Prophet left the house, Abdullah would put his sandal on the door of the house. When the Prophet was walking, Abdullah would hold the Prophet's heel and carry the Prophet's shiwak. Abdullah ibn Mas'ud would carry the Prophet's shiwak.

When the Prophet was in a coma, Abdullah poured water for him. Whatever service Abdullah did, he became a Muslim who was obedient and a member of the Qur'an. Serve the Murshid. Serve the Guru. Find the Murshid and also a friend. Subhbah, solihah, and Murshid in our daily life. I think so.

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