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#1 Biggest Mistake Blocking Your Breakthrough with Codie Sanchez

9:53964 summary words · ~5 min readEnglishBy Tony RobbinsTranscribed Oct 17, 2026

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Summary

Breakthroughs fail because people tackle growth in the reverse sequence—obsessing over strategy before mastering the physiological state and underlying narrative required to execute it.

Attempting to change habits or achieve goals purely through tactical planning leads to analysis paralysis and self-doubt, whereas shifting emotional state and core beliefs eliminates internal friction and ensures execution.

Section summaries

The Vault Combination: Why Strategy-First Fails

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Tony Robbins introduces the core premise that achieving a breakthrough is like opening a safe vault: using the right elements in the wrong order yields nothing. Most people immediately pursue strategy—asking 'how do I do it?'—which triggers what he terms the 'tyranny of how,' awakening internal self-doubt when no previous reference point exists. Peak performers in elite sports succeed not through hesitation, but through absolute certainty that elevates probability. Using the health epidemic as an example, Robbins highlights that 70% of Americans are overweight despite abundant, low-cost fitness strategies existing worldwide, proving that a lack of strategic information is rarely the bottleneck.

Jumping straight to tactical how-to generates paralysis if you lack experiential reference points.
A lack of information is almost never the barrier to personal or professional transformation.

Establishes the foundational framework and core thesis of the entire discussion.

The Anatomy of Story and Limiting Narratives

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Robbins details the second 'S,' the Story, which represents the cognitive narrative and belief structure dictating personal boundaries. Beliefs are simply repetitive ideas held with emotional certainty, often completely disconnected from factual reality. When people who struggle with weight or dating are pressed on their claim of having 'tried everything,' they inevitably admit to repeating two unsuccessful approaches over and over. Codie Sanchez's experience helping people acquire small cash-flowing businesses mirrors this dynamic: prospective buyers invent excuses like 'it won't work for me' to safeguard their identity rather than acting on proven frameworks.

A belief is merely a repetitive thought practiced with emotional conviction, not objective reality.
People defend self-defeating narratives because their identity relies on justifying past failures.

Explains how subconscious belief structures sabotage actionable opportunities.

The Primal Fear: 'Not Enough' and the Loss of Love

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Examining why individuals resist giving up limiting narratives, Robbins points to a universal psychological root shared by elite athletes, royalty, and everyday citizens alike: the terror of not being enough. Beneath superficial insecurities regarding wealth, intellect, or appearance lies the subconscious belief that inadequacy will result in the loss of connection and love. He insists that individuals must fundamentally 'divorce' their limitations and sever ongoing emotional visits to past identities. The section resolves with the declaration that true liberation requires aligning with unlimited human capability rather than retreating into familiar self-pity.

The deepest psychological block across all performance levels is the fear that inadequacy leads to ostracization and loss of love.
Breaking limiting patterns requires an absolute cognitive break, rather than occasional emotional indulgence in old narratives.

Uncovers the deep emotional and neurobiological root behind self-sabotaging behavior.

Mastering State and the Decisiveness of Non-Negotiation

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Robbins introduces the ultimate catalyst that must precede both story and strategy: physiological and emotional State. Your mental energy, vitality, and emotional baseline completely dictate memory recall, perspective, and behavioral willingness. Shifting an individual's state automatically alters their narrative, which naturally leads them to devise or execute strategies without resistance. He illustrates this dynamic by comparing dieting with fasting: dieting fails because it relies on constant internal micro-negotiations, whereas fasting succeeds because total resolve eliminates all mental deliberation.

Physiological state governs emotional narrative, which subsequently governs tactical execution.
Internal negotiation weakens discipline; absolute binary commitments dramatically improve follow-through.

Provides the pivotal mechanical insight explaining why willpower alone fails to sustain long-term change.

The Six Human Needs: Moving from Survival to Expansion

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The conversation concludes with an exploration of the Six Human Needs: Certainty, Uncertainty/Variety, Significance, Love/Connection, Growth, and Contribution. Robbins notes that contemporary culture over-indexes on shallow significance via social media filters, which undermines genuine connection and authentic love. Meeting the basic four personality needs can be done through neurotic or self-centered mechanisms, but true fulfillment requires the spiritual needs of growth and contribution. He notes that unconditional love is naturally given to infants but shifts as we age, necessitating an adult transition from self-centered entitlement ('me') to collective service ('we') to keep life meaningful.

Perfection and total certainty breed apathy; psychological health requires uncertainty, variety, and challenge.
Sustainable happiness emerges solely when individual goals are tied to continuous personal expansion and societal contribution.

Valuable high-level psychological paradigm, though standard for Robbins' established human-needs curriculum.

Key points

The Three S Hierarchy: State, Story, Strategy — Breakthroughs depend on three elements executed in strict sequence: physiological State drives the psychological Story (beliefs), which in turn determines whether you can execute the Strategy (tactics). Starting with strategy triggers self-doubt and inaction because you lack reference experiences.
Beliefs Are Habitual Certainties, Not Facts — A personal story is merely a set of beliefs reinforced through repetition until felt as absolute truth. When people claim they have 'tried everything' to solve a problem, rigorous examination reveals they have repeatedly tried only a couple of ineffective methods while holding onto limiting narratives.
Internal Negotiation Erodes Resolve — Rules based on continuous micro-decisions (like traditional dieting) fail because constant self-negotiation depletes willpower. In contrast, absolute commitments (like fasting) eliminate negotiation entirely, creating immediate ease through clear psychological resolve.
The Dual Driver of Fulfillment: Growth and Contribution — Human psychology is governed by six fundamental needs: certainty, uncertainty/variety, significance, connection/love, growth, and contribution. The first four satisfy basic ego survival, but lasting psychological fulfillment requires expanding beyond self-interest into growth and contribution.

“The problem with asking how do I do it is if you've never done it before, most people then go into what I call the tyranny of how.” — Tony Robbins

“The fact that you believe it doesn't mean it's true. It just means you're certain.” — Tony Robbins

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The reason most people fail to have a

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breakthrough I experience, there's

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actually three elements to it and they

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go after them in the wrong sequence.

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It's kind of like if you know the right

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numbers to a vault and you put them in

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the wrong order, you don't get the

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treasure, right? Uh same thing with your

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phone number. You don't reach the

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person. [music] So, I'll give you the

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three S's to a breakthrough. The first

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one is not the most valuable one. It's

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the first one people go for.

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>> It's strategy. Now, for you and I,

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strategy seems like the most natural

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thing to go for. If I want to achieve

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something, how do I do it? That's the

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number one question, right? The problem

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with asking how do I do it is if you've

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never done it before, most people then

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go into what I call the tyranny of

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[music] how. The tyranny of how is like,

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have you ever done this? Set a goal

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maybe when you're really young. I'm

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going to do this. Maybe you told him

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you're going to do this and this voice

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in your head goes, who are you kidding?

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Right? Because what happens is you start

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to doubt because you have no reference

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base. You have no experience.

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>> And so when you're uncertain, you don't

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follow through. [music] You know, you

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look at a peak performer, what makes

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them a peak performer? If you watch them

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going down that court in the NBA or NFL

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or whatever sport it may be, you feel

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this relentless energy. There's not an

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ounce of hesitancy. There's absolute

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certainty that doesn't guarantee

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success, but it increases probability

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through the roof. When you focus on

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something you know how to do, the doubts

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show up. And then the second thing that

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happens is I'll give you an example.

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Let's take a simplistic piece. 70% of

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Americans are overweight, right? We're

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the fattest country in the history of

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the world. We're infecting every other

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country with our dietary patterns and

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people around the world are getting more

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and more ill. But is the secret to being

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fit and healthy like so complex that you

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only need super intelligent people can

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understand? Is it that it costs so much

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to learn that technology? Is it special

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only for the.1% of the population? No.

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The strategy of how to be fit healthy?

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There's a million different strategies.

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There's not even just one and they all

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work to certain extent. Some are better

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than others obviously. [music] So the

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strate, it's not a strategy problem.

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Now, it's possible. So some people just

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have the wrong strategy, but the real

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problem is the second S. I'm moving

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backwards in order of importance,

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meaning strategy is the least important.

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Even though I consider myself a

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strategist, I know the right strategy

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could save you 10 years in your

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business. The right strategy could save

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you months in terms of training turning

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your weight around or transforming a

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relationship. It could be minutes,

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right, if you have the right strategy.

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But people don't use the strategy

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because the second S gets in the way,

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which is their story.

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>> [music]

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>> the story. We all tell ourselves stories

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about things. Our narrative of our life

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controls our life more than anything

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else. And all the story is is a set of

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beliefs and beliefs are nothing but

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things we've told oursel over and over

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again with so much certainty that now we

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believe them. Like for example, for

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yourself, if I can ask,

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>> can you think of any belief you may have

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had 10, 15 years ago that you back then

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you would have fought for that belief,

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but today you're almost embarrassed you

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had that belief.

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>> Yes.

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>> Right. Most people can. So the fact that

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you believe it doesn't mean it's true.

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It just means you're certain. And so

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most people have certainty about what

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won't work. So let's take the example of

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fitness again. So why don't you ask that

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person who's 35 lbs overweight, how come

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you're overweight? Well, I've tried well

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he say I've tried

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>> everything.

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>> That's right. Everything. And I look at

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them and I say with all due respect, you

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haven't tried everything. Yes, I have.

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I've tried thousands of things. Okay,

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name them. And then they'll go, well,

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I've tried, you know, hundreds of

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things. Name them. Well, I've tried

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these two things that don't work over

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and over again is what it'll come down

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to, right? And they call that

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everything, right? So, the story keeps

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them to do it. You're not in a

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relationship. You don't have a relation.

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You say you want one. Why aren't you in

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one? Well, the good ones are all taken.

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They're gone. Or they're gay and I'm

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not. Or I'm gay and they're not. Right?

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It's not true. It's just not true. But

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the story controls what you're willing

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to do or not do because it's a belief

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and beliefs control actions. Right? So,

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even if you have the right strategy, if

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your story doesn't support it, [music]

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have you ever been with somebody and you

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were, let's say, um, trying to help them

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and you got lots of skill and so you're

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showing, hey, here's what you can do to

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take on small businesses and build a

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real mini empire for yourself, right?

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And you can do it with businesses people

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aren't competing you for, and you can

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earn great cash flow and it's not sexy,

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but it's very successful. Let me show

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you how. And you can put all that in

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front of them and they're just like,

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"No, they're like, "No, you know, I

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just, no, that's not going to happen. It

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just won't work for me." say, "No, no,

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look, I can show you. I've done it." No,

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no, it doesn't work for me. And the more

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you push on them, then they get more

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irritated. And the reason they're

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irritated is they want to hang on to

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their story. Cuz the deepest fear

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everybody has, everyone has. Kings I've

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dealt with in Queens, you know, Academy

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Award winners, Grammy winners, you know,

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winners of of the NFL, greatest the

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greatest players in history. Everybody

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has a fear at some point that they're

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not enough.

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>> Yeah. not rich enough, not smart enough,

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not funny enough, not attractive enough,

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you know, not playful enough, not

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something enough. And the deeper fear we

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have is we're not enough, we won't be

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loved. [music] And love is really it's

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like the heartbeat of the soul, right?

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It's the it's the essence. It's the

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oxygen of your soul. So, you have to

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divorce your limitations and marry the

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truth of your unlimited ability. Now,

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some people get divorced and then they

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go visit their divorcee on a regular

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basis. It's not a good idea. You have to

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just cut it off and no longer go there.

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You have to tap into the truth. You

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know, as corny as it sounds, the truth

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will set you free. But for most people,

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they don't have someone to really do

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that to them. That's what I do. I create

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environments where that happens. But

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there is something before that, and that

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is the first S, the one you should start

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with, but most people rarely even get

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to, and that is your state. If you're

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going to have a breakthrough, it comes

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from your state. You can think of that

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as energy, vitality, strength, mental

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energy, mental fitness, right? All that

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really means is your mental, emotional

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state affects the way you perceive

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everything in life.

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>> Have you [clears throat] ever been

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pissed off at somebody and then you

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suddenly can remember everything that

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they ever did that pissed you off?

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>> Of course, not ever. [laughter]

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>> Right. So, and when you're in love,

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what's wrong with life if you'll fall

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totally in love?

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>> Not a damn thing.

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>> Nothing's wrong. If we're broke, doesn't

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matter. We're in love, right? So, your

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state controls your story.

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>> Your story and your state control

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whether you do anything. If no one

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showed you how to get the strategy,

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you'd figure out the strategy. You'd

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find the way, you'd make the way with

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the right state. So all the work I've

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done most of my life I realized was

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start with a state cuz where everywhere

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else you're starting you're pay you know

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you could teach them the best tools in

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the world they won't follow through. If

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I start with a story it's easy to shift

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their belief and then I can teach them

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the tools but if you don't do it in that

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order people get very very frustrated.

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If you do in that order it becomes very

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very easy. Like for example think about

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this. Somebody says to you, "Okay, I

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know

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I got to go on a diet. I got to I got to

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exercise. [clears throat]

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I um I'm going to do it. I'm really

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going to do it." Is it going to happen?

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>> No.

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>> It's not going to happen in a million

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years because the state they're in.

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>> Most people are trying to get themselves

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to do something. [music] And what they

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don't understand is what you do is based

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on your state.

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>> And what do you think is harder? For

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example, dieting or fasting?

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>> Dieting. [music]

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>> Yes. Very much so. absolutism cuz

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fasting is absolute. You just don't do

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it. Dieting is like a rule by attrition

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>> like you know have this no I'm having

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water you know that's nothing right

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>> so [music] if you get to that place that

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mindset which is total resolve that's

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what it takes to fast

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>> in a state of resolve it's easy

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>> when you're dieting you're saying well

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could I do that what if I could do that

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you're negotiating negotiation with

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yourself makes you weak

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>> so the right state you'll get the right

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behavior you'll get the right story

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[music] and you'll find the right

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strategies and so my focus is first

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there I still do all But that's where I

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go first. So we all have six needs,

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human needs. Certainty, everybody has

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it. It's a survival need because [music]

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certainty you can be comfortable. Cuz if

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you're not comfortable, if you're in

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pain regularly, regular pain means

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damage. Regular damage equals death. So

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it's the base need for human beings.

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[music] But if you're certain all the

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time, you're bored silly. So you need

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uncertainty, right? You need variety.

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You need surprise.

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>> We need significance. Our culture way

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overvalues significance today because of

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social media. [music] Like people,

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>> you know, put on filters and pretend

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they're different than they are. The

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need for connection and love is the

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deepest need that people have, but most

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people want certain love and so they try

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to control the love and kills it.

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>> Or they want significant love. Like it's

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got to be the most significant thing and

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then they get they start to promote who

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they are more than they are cuz they

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think that's what's necessary and

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they're not truthful, right?

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>> And then we need to grow. We need to

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contribute. Those are the spiritual

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needs. If you don't grow, it doesn't

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relationships not growing. If a business

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is not growing, it's dying. There's

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there's that's the law of life.

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Everything grows or dies. [music] But

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also when you grow then you have

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something to give. What makes people

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have a meaningful life is to feel like

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there's something beyond yourself.

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Because meeting your own basic needs any

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idiot can do. You can lie to yourself

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and do that. You know you can work just

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12-hour days and do that. You can

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there's a million ways you can meet

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those basic needs of certainty and

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uncertainty [music] and significance and

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connection at least. Not so much love.

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>> I mean think about it. When you were

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born what' you have to do to be loved?

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>> Nothing.

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>> Nothing. Scream, yell, go to the

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bathroom in your pants, throw up all of

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your mom or your dad, you're still

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loved, right? But there was a day when

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that stopped and that's the day that

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fear entered your body. That's the day

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you try to figure out what to do. So you

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would because you know to survive you

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need love. Love is where someone puts

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[music] their needs aside for yours,

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right? Our capacity to feel that caring

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allows us to connect, allows us to work

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with the other, allows us to [music]

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expand beyond what other people can

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possibly do. And so I look at it and

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say, okay, [music] if this is our

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capacity, why is it that we have this

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unconditional love in the beginning and

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then everybody pursues it for the rest

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of their life and rarely feels it?

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Because if you're unconditional love

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forever, you'd never grow. [music]

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You never bring anything to the world.

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It would all be about me me. Just like

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ridiculous. So you have to grow up and

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realize life's not about you. It's about

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we,

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>> right? We need to grow. We need to

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expand. If you went to Vegas and let's

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say you pulled one of one of those

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warning bandits and you got the jackpot,

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what was your response going to be?

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>> Sweet.

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>> Awesome. Yeah. Second time,

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>> probably less excited, [music] but still

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excited.

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>> 100 times every time you get the same

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victory, now it's called a job.

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>> That's fascinating.

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>> So, we need jackpots in our life to make

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us feel alive. If you got everything you

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wanted at every moment, you'd be bored

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out of your mind.

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