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IT'S TIME TO FOCUS AND VALUE YOURSELF - Best Motivational Speech | Tony Robbins

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Summary

True fulfillment and resilience come from controlling your internal focus and committing to a purpose greater than yourself, rather than relying on external validation or temporary willpower.

Mastering the triad of focus, meaning, and action prevents emotional burnout and victimhood, enabling you to transform past hardships into long-term personal leverage.

Section summaries

Decisions, Mental State, and Controlled Focus

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Robbins opens by contrasting managing stress with designing life on your own terms, invoking the metaphor of burning the boats to eliminate fallback rationalizations. He argues that beliefs act as invisible forces that govern personal limitations, often sabotaging attempts to adopt new habits. What underpins these beliefs is an emotional state, which determines whether a goal is treated as an optional wish or a non-negotiable reality. He introduces the first of three universal micro-decisions: choosing what to focus on amidst a constant stream of sensory deletion and distortion.

Eliminating backup options prevents the brain from rationalizing failure during challenging endeavors.
Your mental and physiological state dictates whether advice and strategies succeed or fail.
Reality is filtered through selective deletion and distortion; you only experience what you consciously focus on.

Establishes the core psychological framework of the video regarding focus and state.

Meaning, Mission, and the Hero's Journey

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Robbins details the second and third decisions: assigning meaning to what you focus on and deciding what physical action to take. Because meaning dictates emotion, changing the narrative around personal events changes your immediate behavioral response. He asserts that capability is rarely the bottleneck for personal transformation; rather, strong motives are required. The ultimate source of sustainable energy is finding a mission you value more than yourself, which reframes internal and external battles as an ongoing hero's journey.

Emotion is generated by the meaning you attach to events, not by the events themselves.
Lack of progress stems from insufficient motives rather than a deficiency in personal capability.
Viewing personal adversity through the lens of a hero's journey provides context and prevents overwhelm.

Explains how to systematically construct emotional motives that outlast temporary willpower.

The Origin of Authentic Self-Esteem

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When asked how individuals who are overly self-critical can cultivate self-esteem, Robbins pushes back on the concept of self-esteem as an unearned gift. He explains that self-esteem cannot be instilled by external accolades or praise; it must be earned privately by pushing through demanding challenges. Over-focusing on building self-esteem often leads to neurotic self-absorption, which can be dissolved by pursuing meaningful work that serves others. An extraordinary life is subjective, defined purely by living on your own terms while contributing beyond yourself.

Praise and external validation cannot manufacture internal self-worth.
Self-esteem is forged strictly through completing difficult, self-directed tasks.
Focusing on serving others neutralizes self-conscious anxiety and self-esteem crises.

Offers an insightful deconstruction of common pop-psychology myths surrounding self-esteem.

Push Willpower vs. Pull Motivation

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Robbins analyzes the dangers of excessive self-criticism, noting that beating oneself up usually stems from irrelevant comparisons that drain vital physical energy. He charts his own motivational evolution from initial anger to fear of failure, before reaching a deep conviction and desire to serve. He contrasts push motivation, which relies on finite willpower, with pull motivation, which is fueled by an inspiring obsession. While willpower inevitably fatigues, pull motivation provides perpetual stamina and emotional joy.

Harsh self-criticism based on external social comparisons depletes energy and diminishes output.
Willpower is an exhaustible resource that cannot sustain decades of elite performance alone.
Pull motivation generated by an obsession with a higher mission creates virtually limitless energy.

Provides a practical diagnostic for identifying whether your daily effort is driven by burnout-inducing fear or energizing purpose.

Internal Control and Temporal Orientation

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Robbins reiterates that energy flows wherever focus is directed, warning that achievers frequently sacrifice present happiness by living exclusively in the future, while others remain trapped in an unchangeable past. Because the external world can only be influenced rather than controlled, emotional mastery depends on governing internal meaning and action. He highlights that destructive emotions like fear and anger cannot physiologically coexist with genuine gratitude. By choosing gratitude and disciplined focus, individuals reclaim agency over their inner state.

Over-focusing on the future destroys present joy, while dwelling on the past breeds helplessness.
Influence belongs to the external world, but absolute control resides only within internal meaning.
Gratitude acts as an emotional disruptor because it cannot biochemically coexist with anger or fear.

Delivers tactical advice on emotional regulation and shifting temporal focus away from regret.

Private Repetition and Emotional Engineering

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Using NBA star Stephen Curry as a case study, Robbins breaks down the mechanics of public genius, calculating that Curry's historic shooting accuracy is the product of over two million practice shots across his career. Public recognition is merely the delayed dividend of unobserved private practice. Robbins connects this relentless preparation to emotional engineering, stating that finding the higher purpose in everyday occurrences creates spiritual maturity. True spiritual growth is defined as achieving total comfort and authenticity with who you already are.

Mastery is the mathematical result of relentless, unseen repetition, not sudden inspiration.
The overall quality of your life is determined by the habitual quality of your emotional states.
Spiritual progress is measured by your level of comfort in presenting your authentic self without pretense.

Uses a concrete sports example to demonstrate how private habits yield high-stakes competence.

Transcending Victimhood and Embracing Adversity

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The dialogue shifts to reconciling past pain with personal growth. The host and Robbins discuss how playing the victim strips away all personal agency, whereas reframing hardship as happening for you unlocks profound maturity. The host introduces the concept of psychological superposition: holding both the realization that childhood trauma was unjust and gratitude for the self-sufficiency it ultimately forced one to build. Robbins concludes that while life presents both easy and difficult situations, personal peace comes from knowing who you are and deciding how to use those events constructively.

Maintaining a victim identity makes genuine psychological and operational freedom impossible.
Adversity must be resolved through a dual perspective that acknowledges past unfairness while valuing the resulting strength.
Situations do not define character; the conscious choice of how to utilize them determines outcome and peace.

Synthesizes the entire conversation into a philosophical model for resolving trauma and claiming agency.

Key points

The Three Perpetual Decisions — At every waking moment, your brain decides what to focus on, what that focus means, and what action to take next. Because the mind deletes and distorts most environmental data, your felt reality is shaped strictly by these three choices rather than objective circumstances.
Earned Self-Esteem vs. External Praise — Genuine self-worth cannot be instilled through compliments or positive affirmations; it is earned strictly through private execution of difficult tasks. The fastest way to dismantle neurotic insecurity is directing attention away from self-obsession and toward serving others.
Pull Motivation Transcends Push Willpower — Initial ambition is often fueled by anger or fear of failure, but raw willpower has a hard physiological limit. Enduring stamina requires pull motivation, where an obsession with a mission larger than your personal ego pulls you forward effortlessly.
Private Practice Dictates Public Triumph — World-class execution appears effortless only because of thousands of hours of unseen, monotonous repetition. Elite performers like Steph Curry shoot hundreds of practice shots daily for decades to make a fraction of that volume in competition.
Reframing Trauma as Personal Capability — Living with freedom requires abandoning the victim identity and recognizing that adverse events forged your greatest strengths. By holding the paradox of wishing painful events had not occurred while remaining grateful for their lessons, you gain resilience.

“It's like if you want to take the island, you got to burn your boats.” — Tony Robbins

“Change is never a matter of ability. It's always a matter of strong enough reasons of motive.” — Tony Robbins

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If I'm stressed in my life, I got to

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stop managing. I got to start creating

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creating life on your terms. Like

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deciding what [music] are the

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immutables. It's like if you want to

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take the island, you got to burn your

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boats.

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If you have a way to go back, the mind

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will rationalize and you will go back.

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But if you really are committed to a

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greater quality of life, you have to

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have something you value more than your

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present way of doing things. You wake up

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every day and you know that life is a

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gift and you want to give back even

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more.

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What I say to people, you want your life

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to [music] keep growing, keep putting

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yourself in new environments. Keep

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getting around things you're not used to

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and let something hit you. Like people

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don't know their passions cuz [music]

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they keep going doing the same things.

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It's like get around where it's better

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and see what hits you. For things to

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change, you got to change. For things

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get better, you got to get better.

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Right? It's the story is the [music]

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belief you've told yourself over and

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over. Cuz belief is the invisible force

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that controls everything in your life.

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And when you have a [music] belief that

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you've honed because you're fearful and

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you've never done this before, then I

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can show you exactly how to do it. And

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you'll say, "It doesn't work. I've tried

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that." Yeah. How many times? How hard?

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How many minutes? Right? But what's

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behind the story [music] is your state,

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your mental, emotional state. If I said

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to you, I am going to lose 12 lbs in the

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next 6 weeks. There is non-negotiable.

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Here's why I do this and this and this

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and this. You think I'm going to do it?

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>> Yes.

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>> You bet your ass I'm going to do it

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right. You can feel the state

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because I believe there's three

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decisions you make every moment of your

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life. You're making them right now if

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you're listening to me and so [music] is

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your audience. The first one is what are

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you going to focus on? You're going to

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be focused on what happened yesterday,

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what you're going to have for lunch,

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[music] what I'm saying, how it relates

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to you. There are millions of things you

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can focus on. But you don't experience

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life. You experience [music] the life

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you focus on. And most of us are

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distortion deletion creatures. Our

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brains don't take it all in consciously.

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It's too much. So our brains delete

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things. [music] We distort things. We

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generalize things so we can make it

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through our lives. And so if you don't

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control your [music] focus, you react.

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The minute you focus on something, your

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brain has to figure out what does this

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mean? Is this the end or [music] the

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beginning? Is this person dissing me? Is

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they are they challenging me? Are they

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coaching me? Are they loving me? And

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whatever meaning you give it produces

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emotion and out of that emotion you make

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the third decision. What am I going to

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do?

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Everyone gets called on the journey.

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Most people try to resist it. But that

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journey, that's what the call is. It's a

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call to grow. So I'm I'm big on change

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your story, change your life. And I'm

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big on understanding the narrative of

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where you are in the story of your life.

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Because if you understand where you are,

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it gives context. It gives meaning. And

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it doesn't make you feel overwhelmed.

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Change is never a matter of ability.

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It's always a matter of strong enough

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reasons [music] of motive. If you got

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strong enough reasons, you can do just

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about anything. And so, I [music] really

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believe that the secret to life is to

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find something you care about more than

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yourself that gives you that pull

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motivation. And then you're never going

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to lack for [music] energy. You're never

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going to lack for passion. You're never

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going to lack for anything. And you're

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going to have a life that's extremely

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meaningful.

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No, life is calling you. What are you

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going to give? not not just what you

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want to give, but what people need. And

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so my focus is I give people what they

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want, but my goal is so I can give them

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what they need, which is a life that

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[music] has more meaning.

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You know, you're going to battle with

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internal things within you and external

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things. But if you keep going, you're

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going to eventually slay your dragons

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and you come out the hero of your own

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life and you have something to share

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that isn't It's not something

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you read somewhere. It's something

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you've lived

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>> and everybody can feel you've lived it

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cuz it's a different level of of

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ownership, you know, and then by the

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way, as soon as you do that, it happens

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again. You're called on another journey.

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You have a new new level of challenge

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that you need to go on. It, you know, it

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just never ends. But it's a it makes

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life really, really beautiful.

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>> How can people who are always very hard

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on themselves learn to build up their

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self-esteem a little bit more?

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I

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>> I don't know if self-esteem is the

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answer, you know? I think um I don't

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think it's bad to be hard on yourself as

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long as you also celebrate when the

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[music] victories happen. But you know

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so many people will tell you I have poor

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self-esteem because when I was a kid

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people said this to me and that to me

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it's convenient that you remember those

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things and not the positive things that

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also occur obviously

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but I think it's more important is to

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realize that self-esteem is earned. It's

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only earned by you with yourself. You're

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not going to get self-esteem because

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everybody praises you. You someone could

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tell your whole life that you're

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brilliant, you're a genius, you're

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beautiful, you're handsome and you not

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believe it. Someone can tell you, you

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know, you're a piece of crap and you're

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never going to become anything. And

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there's a part you can say, I'll show

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you as many people have. And then they

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develop drive out of it, right? So,

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[music] it's really self-esteem comes

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from doing incredibly difficult things

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where you know you pushed yourself. It's

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not virtue signaling. It's not telling

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people about it. It's what you know

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inside your soul is true. And the more

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you [music] do things that are

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incredibly difficult and especially

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things that are meaningful, meaning

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they're not just about yourself, the

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higher that esteem [music] would be. I

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think the most important thing for

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self-esteem is to find something you

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care about more than yourself. If you

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find something you care about more than

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you, you won't be thinking about

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yourself all the time and all your

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self-esteem just goes out the

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window.

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The real question is what do you want?

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If you want an extraordinary life, my

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definition that is life on your terms.

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Some people it's three beautiful

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children, a white picket fence. Some

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people it's building a multi-billion

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dollar business. Somebody else it's

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writing poetry.

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instead of looking for somebody else.

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It's like okay, what do you really want

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from your life

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and aligning yourself with moving

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forward towards what you really want? If

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you can do that in a way that also you

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feel is serving others simultaneously,

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there's a there's a sense of meaning in

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life that can't be replaced by

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self-esteem or praise or compliments or

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[music] being nice to yourself.

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And I don't think it's bad to be tough

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on yourself. I'm pretty tough on myself.

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will be honest with you. Being overly

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tough on yourself usually comes by

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making comparisons that don't make

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sense.

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You're comparing to somebody else's life

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that has a totally different path, a

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totally different experience. We all

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develop in different stages and

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different things. We all want different

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things, but eventually you wake up and

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say, "It's good to be strong with

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yourself, but beating yourself up just

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lowers your energy. And when your energy

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gets lower, you produce less. And you

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don't have the same level of joy. you

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don't have the the impact that you want

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to have, nor do you have the excitement

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that you really want [music] to have.

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So, I look at it as something that it's

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worth earning your own self-esteem, but

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it's really not the secret. The secret

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is find something else you obsess about

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more than yourself, and you'll have a

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level of energy that will compel you

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over the long term.

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When I began, I began with a fuel, which

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was like, I'm going to show them my, you

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know, my [music] it was anger that drove

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me, you know, I'm just going to show you

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type of thing. But that fuel doesn't

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last. And then the next fuel that people

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[music] tend to use is I got to succeed.

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But there's a little fear underneath

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that that's driving them, which is like

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what if I don't versus a knowing, you

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know, it's like if you give your all

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every day, your gifts will make room for

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you. And it's like having a knowingness

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that things were are going to be fine.

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And then there's the next level, which

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is you start to know who you are, and

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you're not trying to prove it to

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yourself or other people.

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>> And it's just you just want to help.

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It's the difference between what I would

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call push, motivation, and pull, right?

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Push is I'm going to make this happen.

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And it takes tremendous willpower. And I

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know you have plenty of willpower. I do

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as well. But there's a limit to

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willpower. But there's no limit to pull.

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whole is when there's something

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magnificent that you want to serve,

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something that you're you got an

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obsession for to create or to do or make

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happen. And that doesn't it, you know,

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you don't lose that energy. You don't

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lose those components and you're able to

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laugh and enjoy along the way.

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I think it's important to realize

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wherever focus goes, energy flows. It's

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corny, but it's true, right? Um, in

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fact, maybe an easier way of saying it

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is, uh, we don't experience life. None

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of us do. We experience the life we

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focus on. So in any moment, what's wrong

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is always available. So is what's right.

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So it's not about being positive. It's

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about being intelligent.

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You know, you got to look at the impact

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of what you're believing. And you got to

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look at and say, you know, where's my

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focus going? There's I can always be

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upset about something. I can always find

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something to be joyous or at least

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grateful for which leads to joy. And I

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think it's learning to discipline your

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disappointments, you know, not allow

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them to grow and to move on and to use

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whatever life has given you.

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Where do you tend to focus more? Your

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past, your present, or your future? We

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all spend all three. But where do you

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spend more of your time? Most of us who

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are achievers tend to focus on the

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future, but all the joy is in the

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present.

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The majority of people spend a lot of

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time in the past. And the problem is you

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can't change it.

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You're constantly focused on what's

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missing versus what you have. You're

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focused on what you can't control. And

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there's two worlds, right? The external

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world, the internal world. We can't

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control the external world. We can

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influence it.

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The part we can control is what's going

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on inside of us. And that we can control

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what we focus on. We can control the

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meaning. We can decide the meaning.

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We're the meaning makers. And we can

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decide what to do. And when we make

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those three decisions, we're in control

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of our life. and all the anxiety and

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tends to go away. Especially if

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we're trying to do that to serve

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something more than ourselves

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because you can't serve something more

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than yourself and not benefit.

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When you want some self-esteem, do

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something worthwhile beyond just

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yourself.

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We all know the two emotions that

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destroy your relationship, your

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business, your life, it's fear and

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anger. Those are two extremes.

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You can't be grateful and fearful

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simultaneously. You can't be angry and

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grateful [music] simultaneously.

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But like you look at somebody like Steph

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Curry and you [music] see this guy, you

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know, shoot the ball from almost half

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court. He doesn't even look. He turns

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around and just waves cuz he knows it's

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in already and there's swish and the

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crowd goes [music] crazy. And people

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look at that and go, he's unbel is he's

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unbelievable. It's unbelievable. He's

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the greatest three-point shooter in

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history. There's no one like him. But

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what they don't pay attention to is that

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isn't like a little gift. He shoots 500

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shots every single day, never less than

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that, 7 days a week for more than

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[music] 15 years. His 15- year

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professional career. He's been doing it

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since before he was in college. His dad

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really trained him. So, think of that.

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3,500 shots a week, 168,000 shots in a

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year, 2 million shots in his 15-year NBA

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career. So, he can make 3600 [music]

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shots, not even onetenth of 1%.

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I tell people you get rewarded in public

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for what you [music] practice in

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private.

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I think everything happens for a reason.

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I think there's a higher purpose. I

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think it's my job to find it.

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I think that life happens for us, not to

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us. But it's our job to figure it out.

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You can make some simple patterns and

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change your whole life of focus. The

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minute you focus on something, your

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brain has to decide what does it mean?

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And meaning is what creates emotion. And

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emotion is where your life is. Right?

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And so the quality of your life is the

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quality of your emotions.

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We all have a pattern of focusing on

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what we have and at times on what's

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missing.

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Which one do you think most people spend

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more time focusing on what they have or

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what's missing?

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You can engineer your life to have more

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happiness. But I think the real

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challenge is thinking so hardly about

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being taken seriously just represents

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your fears, right? It's like

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I think spiritual development when

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people talk about spiritual not

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religious development, spiritual

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development is the level of comfort you

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can have with just being your real self.

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And I think um that's not an easy task

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cuz we all are trying to be something

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but we already are that something we're

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trying to be. That doesn't mean you

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can't be better, but it's like accepting

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and appreciating what you really are.

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And [music] instead of projecting, you

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know, something else takes a lot of pain

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out of your body takes a lot of wasted

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energy out. It take gets a lot of fears

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to just disappear. And I don't have an

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easy path for that. I think it's the

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hero's journey.

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>> I feel if I work my ass off now, I've

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done my part. Okay, now come through me.

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Let's do this. And and it tends to

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float.

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Uh, life happens to me or I happen to

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life,

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>> but life happens for me.

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>> Yes. To me,

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>> yeah. Is a wonderful reframe.

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>> Yeah. I really believe it. But you got

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to dig for it. It's not It's not easy.

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>> But it's got to be earned, right? Like

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wishing for confidence without

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competence is just delusion. You have no

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evidence to say that you can do this

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thing.

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>> If you want freedom, if you value

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freedom, you can't possibly have it as

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long as you play the victim role. None

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of that makes you who you are. None of

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that controls where you are in your

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life.

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[music] It's like have you ever had

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something happen in your life that was

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horrible. I mean, it was painful. You'd

13:07

never want to go through it again in a

13:08

million years. You wouldn't want anybody

13:09

else to go through it that you care

13:10

about.

13:11

>> But after 5 or 10 years, you look back

13:13

and you say,

13:14

>> "I never want to go through it again."

13:16

But now I see the wisdom in it. It's

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like it's like it made me care so much

13:20

more. It made me so much stronger. It

13:22

made something in me more. I mean, I'm

13:25

sure you can relate to that, can't you?

13:26

>> Yeah, for sure. I mean, you don't really

13:28

realize it's just life. And then you

13:30

learn a little bit more about yourself

13:31

and you start to realize, well, look at

13:32

all of the ways that I've had to

13:33

compensate for that. Look at all of the

13:35

ways that it's held me back. Look at all

13:36

of the beliefs that I have about myself.

13:38

And and God, if only if only that hadn't

13:41

[music] happened, then I would be here

13:43

or I would be there. And then you

13:45

realize, well, the light side [music] of

13:48

all of that dark stuff is usually the

13:50

stuff that I'm most proud of myself for.

13:52

So the fact that you were maybe a little

13:55

bit alone in childhood means that you're

13:56

very self-sufficient when you're an

13:58

adult. Or the fact that you didn't have

13:59

anybody to support you means that you

14:01

have no concern about working [music] on

14:04

your own and continuing to take a bet on

14:06

yourself. So on and so forth. So, you

14:07

end up having this really strange loop

14:09

where you go from

14:11

unconscious

14:13

incompetence in that you've somehow been

14:16

uh through something that you really

14:17

hate to this sort of awareness of how

14:19

it's held you back to this awareness of

14:20

how it's propelled you. And then you

14:22

have to get to this really difficult

14:23

place which is okay. So, this is a thing

14:25

that I kind of wish hadn't happened and

14:28

yet I'm grateful that it did. And it's a

14:31

it's like a it's like a psychological

14:33

superp position that you need to hold in

14:34

your head at the same time. You can't

14:36

collapse it down into one. You need to

14:38

hold both of these things. It's like,

14:39

yeah, that's Like, that

14:40

shouldn't have happened. Like, I really

14:41

wish that that and had you have been

14:43

able to see you, had you at 36 have been

14:45

able to see you at 12, you would have

14:46

[music] picked them up and given them a

14:47

hug and said, I believe in you and and

14:50

you don't deserve this,

14:52

but it needs to happen to you.

14:54

>> It was meant to be. Now, I I don't

14:56

believe like everything's meant to be. I

14:58

think situations are meant to be, and

14:59

then it's our job to [music] choose how

15:01

we're going to use them or be used by

15:02

them, right? I think that's the

15:04

difference. But I think you know we get

15:06

easy times and tough times. Why is that

15:09

important? It is incredibly peaceful if

15:13

you've done the job in the beginning

15:14

because you know who you are. Now you

15:17

have an amazing wife.

15:37

>> [music]

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