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Success Is Hard Until You Build Systems Like This

25:58EnglishBy Ali AbdaalTranscribed Jul 18, 2026
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This video is all about how you can

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achieve more success in your personal or

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professional life by building systems.

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So, we're going to talk about the

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philosophy of this, why systems are

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important, and what the difference is

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between people who have systems and

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people who don't. And in the second part

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of the video, I'm going to go through

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five systems that I think you should

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totally incorporate into your life if

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you haven't already, because they will

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drastically, drastically increase your

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chances of achieving whatever your own

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personal definition of success actually

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is. And if you're new here, hello, my

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name is Ali, I'm a doctor turned

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but now let's dive into the video.

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All right, so let's start out with a

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definition. So, we are all trying to

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work towards this thing that we call

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success, but what the hell does success

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actually mean? There are lots of

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different definitions, people have their

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own like ways of defining this, but in

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my opinion, you would generally consider

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yourself successful if you've achieved

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or if you're actively working towards

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goals that you intrinsically care about.

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I would say your life is kind of

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successful if you're working towards

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those goals in a balanced way. So, for

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example, I wouldn't call it massive

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success if, you know, you're

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single-mindedly focused on just this one

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thing, but then you've like wrecked your

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health and your relationships and your

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life along the way. I wouldn't

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personally think of that as being

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success. And finally, success is where

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you are actually enjoying the journey

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along the way, because ultimately, you

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could have success, you could have the

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nicest house, you could have the

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fanciest job, you could have the biggest

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business, but if you haven't enjoyed the

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journey of getting there, it will very

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much feel hollow, because you'll get to

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that destination and you'll realize that

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that is not where happiness and

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salvation is actually to be found. Now,

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in order to achieve our goals, we

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basically need to take a series of

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actions. If we take the right sort of

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actions and do them for long enough and

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consistently enough, we are more likely

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to get to our goals. In order to have a

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generally balanced life, we kind of need

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a somewhat reasonable diversity of goals

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and a therefore diversity of actions

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across the different domains of our

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life. For example, our professional and

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personal life, our work, our health, our

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relationships, our hobbies. And in order

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to have enjoyment along the way, to be

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honest, a lot of it comes from our

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approach to things. Like if you approach

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stuff in a sort of playful way, if you

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approach things in a sincere rather than

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serious way, if you have an attitude and

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a mindset of non-attachment, like you're

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working towards your goals and you're

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doing stuff to get there, but you're not

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overly attached to any particular

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outcome. And of course, if you can drive

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intrinsic motivation for the goals that

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you're achieving, so rather than being

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motivated by external factors like I

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don't know, fame and money and what your

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society thinks you should do or

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whatever, you're actually motivated by

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intrinsic things, like you actually want

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to do the thing. Those are generally the

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factors that lead to enjoyment. And I

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would like to offer for your

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consideration in this video that if you

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build systems into your life, you're

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actually far more likely to achieve your

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goals, you're more likely to do the

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actions that are required to achieve

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your goals, you're more likely to have a

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balanced approach to the goals and the

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actions that you achieve and take, and

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you're also more likely to have

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enjoyment along the journey, all by

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building the right sorts of system into

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your life.

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So now let's try and define what

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actually is a system. And you can define

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a system as a network of interconnected

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things that lead to a particular result.

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And those things could be, for example,

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actions, or they could be processes,

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which are really just like sets of

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actions, or they could be checklists,

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which are again, really just sets of

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actions. So what you basically have is

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that a system is a step-by-step set of

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actions that leads to a particular

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result. And again, the whole point of

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this video is that I would like to argue

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that if you can take the approach of

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building more systems into your life,

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and basically systematizing your

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approach to your personal and

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professional life, in my opinion, you're

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far more likely to achieve success,

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whatever that definition of success is

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for you. Now, I want to give you a

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couple of examples here. So, imagine the

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world of aviation, right? Like pilots

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piloting airplanes. That is an

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enormously high-stakes situation, and

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the entire world of aviation is built

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around systems. Systems are the most

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important thing. There is a system to

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build the appropriate airplane. This is

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why basically all airplanes kind of look

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the same, because people have figured

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out a system for making airplanes fly.

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And so if you deviate too much from the

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system, you end up not building an

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airplane that flies. Let's take another

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high-stakes thing, like medicine. I used

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to be a doctor, in case you didn't know.

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And medicine is all about following a

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system. Yes, there is some level of like

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individual stuff that the doctors do.

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For example, like, you know, talking to

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the patient and making them feel nice.

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But, when you go and see a doctor and

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you talk to them about your problems,

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the doctor is actually following a

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system. One of the most popular systems

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is the Calgary-Cambridge method of

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patient interviewing, which is like a

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whole system for what sort of questions,

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as a doctor, you need to ask the patient

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in order to make sure that you've got

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all the symptoms and all the signs and

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all that kind of stuff. When the doctor

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examines you and listens to your heart

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and like examines your abdomen and all

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of that kind of stuff, again, they are

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following a system. They are not just

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making up as they go along. If they

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have lots and lots of experience, then

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yes, then, you know, the systematization

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of the thing for doctors starts to

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become second nature. They start to

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pattern recognize, and so, they're

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following a system, even though they

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often don't realize they're following a

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system, because the system has been so

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drilled into them that they can now kind

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of go a little bit off-script. But, even

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then, even if you're like a surgeon with

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50 years of experience and you're like

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the world's best person, you still

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literally have to fill out a checklist

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before every single operation and at the

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end of every single operation to make

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sure that you've checked the boxes for

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the important stuff that the system

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needs to make sure the patient has a

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good result. Now, in our professional

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lives, in these sort of work

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environments, like in medicine or in

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aviation or in like Formula 1, the idea

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of building systems into it is like

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fairly standard. Like with your job, you

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probably have systems that you have to

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follow. Systems for HR, systems for

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marketing, sales, operations, finance,

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the whole shebang. Businesses are built

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on the idea of systems. And I would like

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to offer for your consideration that we

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can totally build those sorts of systems

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into our personal lives as well, for

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pretty much any goal that we want to

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work towards.

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And there is a really nice visual that I

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got from my friend Jeff Su that sort of

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describes the value of a system. So, if

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you imagine this kind of graph, we've

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got effort over here, and so, this is

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sort of what the line might look like if

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you're trying to do stuff without a

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system to it. Whereas, this is what the

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line looks like if you're trying to do

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something that does have a system

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attached to it. It will take a little

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bit more effort in the initial stages to

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build the system, but then very quickly

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the fact that you are now using a

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system, i.e. there is a systematized set

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of actions or processes or steps that

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you're going to follow, it takes

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actually quite a lot of work and quite a

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let's get back to it. I'll give you a

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personal example. doing weight training

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when I started out for about 5 years,

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and I was not following a system. I was

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going to the gym a couple of times a

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week when I had the time, and I was kind

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of doing whatever I felt like. I was

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going with the flow. And sure, this was

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kind of fun. I'd go to the gym with my

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friends and stuff, but I made almost no

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progress in my physique or in my health

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levels or in any of those things because

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I wasn't I wasn't following a system.

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Recently, I started following a system.

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I got a personal trainer, and he

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programs my workouts, and I see him

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three times a week at the same time

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slot. We follow a similar kind of

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workout plan with progressive overload.

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There is a system behind the thing, and

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for the first time in my life, I'm

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finally seeing progress when I'm

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actually at the gym because I'm

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following a system. I'm not just

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screwing around and making stuff up as I

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go along and hoping for the best. I'm

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following a prescribed system that

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people have already figured out to get

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to a desired result, which is to try and

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attempt to get a little bit more jacked

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and to reduce my visceral fat levels.

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Let's take another example. Let's say

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you are starting a business and you're

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doing sales calls for the first time.

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Like you're getting on the phone or a

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Zoom call with your prospects and trying

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to sell them your product. Not having a

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system would be hopping on the call,

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making it up as you go along, just sort

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of vibing and going with the flow.

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Having a system means that you would

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have some kind of sales script that you

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would follow. You're probably saying a

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similar thing each time in the opening

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and in the closing. You have a list of

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objections that they might say, like,

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you know, the price is too expensive or

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I don't have the time or let me think

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about it, and you have defined responses

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that you figured out because you built a

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system around it. You have a system for

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following up with them. Now, in that

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world, the business that follows a

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system for their sales process is going

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to make way more money compared to the

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noob business that has no system around

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this because they're just sort of making

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stuff up as they go along. And this is

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the core idea behind why systems are way

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more likely to lead you to success

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because success, if you define it as

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achieving your goals with balance and

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enjoyment along the way, is really just

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about executing on a set of action. Now,

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if you are making up those actions every

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time depending on how you feel, you're a

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lot less likely to get to any particular

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goal compared to if you have a system or

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a set of processes that you're following

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every time.

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Now, after all of that opining, I would

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like to share with you five systems that

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I think, if you were to incorporate into

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your life, would drastically increase

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your chances of success. The first

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system that I think is incredibly

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helpful is some kind of goal-setting

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system. When it comes to achieving

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success, having goals is really

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important because then at least you know

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what you're aiming for. You don't have

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to be wedded to the goals, you don't

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have to be attached to them, you don't

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have to be upset if you don't manage to

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achieve a goal in the time frame that

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you wanted, but it's so useful to

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actually have a goal to shoot for in the

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first place. Now, the way most people do

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this is sort of like before they have a

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system, it's sort of like, you know, the

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New Year comes around and they'll sort

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of vaguely set some New Year's

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resolutions that I want to stop

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procrastinating or I want to go to the

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gym more often and they just they won't

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have a systematic approach to goal

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setting. And so what happens is that

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they start something and they sort of

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meander a little bit and then they quit

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or they start something else and they

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kind of go all over the place and then

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they quit or they set a goal for

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something else and then, you know,

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they've taken one step and then they

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quit and it's all this sort of like

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general kind of mess when you approach

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goal setting as something that you do ad

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hoc whenever you have the time and you

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just sort of try and figure it out as

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you go along. Whereas, after you have a

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system for goal setting and there are

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lots of them out there and I don't

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really care which one you use but like

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you can just Google it or ask ChatGPT or

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Claude to give you a system for goal

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setting. I've got my own it's called the

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GPS system there'll be some videos over

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there somewhere on the channel. But

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after you have a system for goal

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setting, you have a systematic process

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that you can follow every 3 months or

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every year or however frequently you

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want to do it. And so for example, my

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process starts with like vision where

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there's like a life compass section

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where you figure out like what you

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actually want your life to look like

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very long term and what what are your

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core values and that kind of stuff. Then

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we turn it into a 3-year sketch

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where you can use like a vision board or

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something to figure out where you want

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to be 3 years from now and then we make

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quarterly quests which are like 90-day

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goals. Again, all of this stuff will be

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linked down below cuz we've got videos

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on the channel about all this stuff so

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I'm not going to expand on it in too

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much detail. And then after we figured

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out our quarterly quests, we have a

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weekly process of like prioritization

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and reflection that I call the balanced

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week blueprint. And you might think that

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this stuff is a little bit much but like

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it doesn't take that long to do. It

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takes maybe a couple of hours to do like

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a life compass exercise to really figure

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out what direction you want to go with

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your life. It takes maybe half an hour

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to do like a vision board 3-year sketch.

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It's it's quite fun thing to do as well.

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It takes maybe half an hour every

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quarter to define quarterly quests. And

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what you're doing with this systematic

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approach to goal setting is that you're

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really trying to decide what are the

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small number of goals I actually want to

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work towards. And most of us go through

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life without really stopping back to

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zoom out a little bit and just actually

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think about this. It's so easy to get

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fixated on the day-to-day. We're too

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busy at work and then we get home and

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then there's the kids and the stuff and

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whatever and there's not enough time and

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not enough energy. And yet if we just

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take a few hours once in a while to zoom

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out and follow a systematic process for

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goal setting, we are far more likely to

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end up working towards goals that are

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intrinsically motivated, goals that we

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actually want to work towards, rather

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than casually working towards goals that

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are just a subconscious result of what

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society has told us, what our parents

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have told us, or what I don't know, the

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a previous version of our self decided

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to do.

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The second major system I would really

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recommend installing into your life is

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some kind of time management system. And

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again, I've made videos about this on

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the channel, they'll be linked down

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below if you want to check them out. But

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when it comes to achieving any goal at

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all, achieving every goal, as we talked

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about, is a series of actions. And in

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order to do those actions, we have to do

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some work. And there are generally three

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inputs into work, and that is time,

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energy, and focus, assuming you're the

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one doing the work. If you have a team

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and you have other team members doing

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the work, then you have the other metric

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of money because you're hiring the team

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and getting them to do the work stuff,

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but for the most part, time, energy, and

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focus are the three fundamental

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resources that individuals invest in

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doing work, taking actions to achieve

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goals, which ultimately, fingers

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crossed, leads us to success, whatever

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that definition of success is for us.

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And on a very basic level, the most

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important one of these is time. Time is

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the primary thing, because we only have

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168 hours every week to do stuff. 168

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hours. Most of us spend like 56 of those

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sleeping, and maybe another 12 of them

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eating and going to the toilet and

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stuff. So what that basically leaves is

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100 hours.

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Nice round number. If you have a job and

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you have to I don't know, spend 60 You

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just, you know, you literally just got

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40 hours left every single week to do

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all of the things that you want to do.

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If you imagine that like most people

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have a screen time of like 6 hours a

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day, all of those 40 hours suddenly

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disappear. And so you realize very

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quickly, and maybe if you're the sort of

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person who watches this channel, and if

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you're at this point in the video, that

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like there's actually not that many

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hours in every week to do all of the

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things that you want to do. Which means

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that if we want to be able to do the

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work that helps us take the actions that

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helps us get to our goal, that helps us

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eventually get to success, we want to be

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good at managing our time and ideally

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instead of having to again make this up

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as we go along, ideally we have a system

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that makes it a lot easier for us to

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manage our time so that we can make time

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for the important stuff and get rid of

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the stuff that is less important. But,

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there are three key factors that I think

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everyone should have. Number one, a good

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time management system involves time

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blocking, which is basically where you

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stick blocks in your calendar for the

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stuff that is important to you. For

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example, I have a weekly date night with

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my wife. That is time blocked. I go to

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the gym three times a week. That is time

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blocked. I have two filming days a week

13:57

where I work on YouTube videos. Those

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are time blocked in the calendar. The

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more you can intentionally decide how

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you want to be using your time ahead of

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time, rather than having to make a

14:06

decision in the moment and then sort of

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being at the mercy of your mood or your

14:09

energy levels, the easier it is to

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reliably do the actions consistently

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that are going to get you to your goals.

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That's not to say that you should have

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no room for spontaneity. You can totally

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have free time in the calendar as well

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where you can just do whatever you want.

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But, in general, the people that are

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most likely to achieve goals are the

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ones who actually make the time to

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achieve those goals. Perhaps

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unsurprisingly. Factor number two that

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every good time management system should

14:27

have is a method for prioritization.

14:29

Now, you probably have more things you

14:31

would like to do compared to the time

14:32

that you actually have to do them cuz

14:34

you're probably an ambitious person and

14:35

you have lots of goals and you want to

14:36

live a healthy balanced life. But, as

14:37

you've probably realized it's actually

14:38

impossible to do all the things and so

14:40

we need to prioritize what are the few

14:42

that are the most important. And

14:43

thirdly, ideally every good time

14:44

management system should have some kind

14:46

of component of reflection where you

14:48

look at how you've been spending your

14:50

time, you reflect on it, and then you

14:51

use that reflection process to adjust

14:54

your time blocking and prioritization

14:55

system. For me, I try my best to do a

14:57

weekly review or reflection and this is

14:59

just a series of questions that I ask

15:00

myself. It takes about 20 minutes and

15:02

it's a good way of making sure that I'm

15:03

continually re-aligning to the goals

15:05

that I want to achieve and making

15:06

changes to my schedule if like life

15:08

happens.

15:10

System number three that I think would

15:12

benefit most people in their life is

15:14

some kind of health optimization or

15:16

health operating system. I call mine

15:18

health OS cuz it's just kind of cute.

15:19

And what this is is a system that you

15:21

can follow on autopilot that gets you to

15:23

your health goals. So, this involves

15:25

things like sleep and diet and exercise.

15:28

Now, before you have some kind of system

15:29

around your health, you sleep roughly

15:31

whenever you feel tired and you wake up

15:33

whenever you want to wake up or or with

15:35

your alarm if you have some kind of like

15:36

work to go to. Your diet is like you're

15:38

so you're sort of making it up as you go

15:39

along. Your exercise, you're sort of

15:41

doing random stuff whenever you can find

15:43

the time to do the thing. And this is

15:45

why most people are on average not

15:46

particularly healthy. But, if you're

15:47

building a system into your life where

15:49

you're following a set of processes

15:50

around your sleep, your diet, your

15:51

exercise, then you're much more likely

15:53

to be in a better place. So, what might

15:55

be the system for optimizing your sleep?

15:56

Again, we have done videos about it.

15:57

I'll link them down below, but, you

15:58

know, getting 8 hours a night is

16:00

generally very helpful. Having the room

16:01

set to 19° C is generally very helpful.

16:04

That tends to be the temperature for

16:05

most people that optimizes sleep.

16:07

Defining like when you want bedtime to

16:08

be, like, "Hey, I'm going to sleep 10:00

16:09

p.m. to 6:00 a.m." or whatever,

16:11

generally helpful. The more you can

16:12

stick to a consistent bed and wake time,

16:14

the more your circadian rhythms actually

16:16

line up and so the less likely you are

16:18

to be tired or groggy or have low energy

16:19

throughout the day. Of course, there is

16:21

the classic tip to view morning sunlight

16:23

as per Andrew Huberman, which is again

16:24

helpful for entraining our circadian

16:26

rhythm. You've got things like no phone

16:28

in the bedroom, getting rid of your

16:29

phone so that you're not like browsing

16:30

TikTok or Reddit at like 2:00 in the

16:32

morning, which is another thing that

16:32

would destroy your sleep. I personally

16:34

like having a Kindle on my bedside table

16:36

because then if I'm struggling to go to

16:37

sleep, I can just read like a

16:38

spirituality book or something on Kindle

16:40

and that gets me to sleep pretty

16:41

quickly. If you want, you can use some

16:43

kind of sleep tracker. I wear a Whoop.

16:44

I've got like a I'm using this for the

16:46

last like 380 days or something. I've

16:47

got a 380-day streak on it. And so this

16:49

gives me a sleep score. And so generally

16:51

with any kind of system, having some

16:52

sort of metric that you can look at to

16:54

see how effective is your system

16:55

performing and then being able to sort

16:57

of adjust your system based on the

16:59

metric is generally quite helpful. It's

17:00

not absolutely essential, but for most

17:02

things having some way to measure the

17:03

number actually does genuinely help. And

17:04

all of these is just a series of steps.

17:06

And sure, most people don't do all of

17:08

these things absolutely all the time,

17:09

but having a system which is sort of a

17:11

set of defaults that you're going to

17:12

follow most of the time is going to be

17:14

way more likely for you to have healthy

17:15

sleep. And obviously we know that sleep

17:17

is one of those things that like

17:18

contributes to every other area of our

17:19

life. When it comes to diet, if for

17:21

every single meal, you know, three meals

17:22

a day for like 7 days a week, if every

17:24

single time you had to figure out what

17:26

you want to do in terms of what you're

17:27

eating or what you're cooking or what

17:28

you're buying from the grocery store, A,

17:30

you end up wasting a ton of time in like

17:32

mental decision fatigue and ordering

17:34

random takeaways and going to random

17:35

restaurants and then your calories and

17:37

macros and all that kind of stuff are

17:38

off and then you end up being pretty

17:39

unhealthy. And so, what busy people and

17:40

especially people with kids tend to find

17:42

is that actually systematizing the

17:44

household diet is really, really, really

17:45

helpful. Like knowing that Tuesdays are

17:47

like Chinese takeout Tuesdays, knowing

17:49

that Thursday is a movie night with the

17:51

kids and therefore we're going to order

17:52

pizza, knowing that like we're going to

17:54

meal prep on the Sunday and then batch

17:55

prepare the breakfast for the whole week

17:57

and batch prepare the lunches for the

17:59

whole week so the kids can take them to

18:00

school or whatever the situation might

18:01

be. Almost everyone who you consider to

18:03

be successful probably has some kind of

18:05

system for their diet and their

18:06

nutrition. It doesn't have to be fancy,

18:08

it doesn't have to be private chef

18:09

levels, but just having a method that

18:10

you are following which means you don't

18:12

have to think about what the hell am I

18:13

going to eat for these 21 meals every

18:15

single week will save you a huge amount

18:17

of time and also make you way healthier.

18:18

And then of course, having some kind of

18:20

system that you're following for your

18:21

exercise. What I do personally is weight

18:23

training three times per week. I try to

18:24

do 40 minutes of zone two cardio through

18:26

like casual running about three times a

18:28

week. I aim to do yoga about one or two

18:30

times a week for general flexibility and

18:31

mobility and of course, I aim to get

18:33

10,000 steps per day because there's a

18:35

good amount of evidence that like the

18:36

more steps you take the healthier you're

18:38

going to be and so I have a walking

18:39

treadmill for my desk some of the time

18:41

as well. And again, this is a system.

18:42

The gym sessions are in the calendar,

18:44

the runs should be more systematized for

18:45

me cuz they're currently not. I kind of

18:47

make time for running when I when I have

18:48

the time, which is why I'm a lot less

18:49

consistent with this than I am with the

18:51

gym where it's actually in the calendar.

18:52

And so, if you have some kind of system

18:53

that you're following, some set of

18:55

default actions that you're taking every

18:56

week, your health is far more likely to

18:59

be good compared to someone who does not

19:00

have that kind of system. And it's like

19:02

that phrase goes, the healthy man has 99

19:04

wishes, the unhealthy man has only one.

19:06

If you are sick or unhealthy, then that

19:08

is a massive drain on practically every

19:11

other area of your life as well. And so,

19:12

you might as well follow some kind of

19:13

system. Again, if you're not sure, just

19:15

ask ChatGPT, watch some YouTube

19:16

tutorials for like and it doesn't have

19:17

to be fancy, but it does take a lot of

19:19

the guesswork and a lot of the mental

19:21

decision fatigue out of the process of

19:23

keeping on top of your health.

19:25

System number four that I think everyone

19:26

would benefit from is some kind of

19:28

system to keep on top of the

19:30

relationships that matter to you the

19:31

most. Now, this is where it can

19:33

sometimes sound weird being like, why

19:34

would you build a system for

19:35

relationships? Relationships shouldn't

19:37

be systematized. That's just not true.

19:38

Like if you ask any like marriage

19:40

counselor or marriage therapist or read

19:42

any book about what makes a successful

19:43

marriage. Actually, what a lot of it

19:45

comes down to is systems. Making sure

19:47

you have a weekly date night and that

19:49

it's in the calendar and that both

19:51

parties know that it happens every

19:52

Sunday evening, for example. That is an

19:54

example of a system. Doing something

19:56

like regular relationship reviews, maybe

19:58

once a month where you and the spouse or

19:59

you and your partner sit down and

20:01

actually reflect on the state of your

20:02

relationship and if there's any like

20:03

minor grievances that you haven't had a

20:04

chance to bring up and you talk about

20:06

those things. Again, sounds weird, but

20:07

it's incredibly helpful. Me and my wife

20:09

were seeing a relationship therapist

20:10

before we got married just cuz I got

20:12

some advice from a friend saying that

20:13

like relationship therapists are

20:14

amazing. And he recommended we do

20:16

relationship reviews. We read a couple

20:17

of books about how to have a successful

20:18

marriage that also would bullish on

20:20

relationship reviews. This is a way of

20:21

systematizing your relationship so that

20:24

you do the sensible things without

20:25

having to think too hard about them. As

20:27

you become super busy at work, it's

20:28

generally very helpful to block out

20:29

holidays in advance. So a lot of the

20:31

most successful entrepreneurs I know

20:33

really, really take their personal life

20:34

and their relationships very seriously.

20:36

And so at the start of the year, before

20:37

they do any of their business planning,

20:38

they will block out in the calendar,

20:40

okay, this is holiday with the spouse,

20:42

this is holiday with the kids, this is

20:43

we're going to take all of August off

20:44

for a sabbatical. Because if you don't

20:46

block all of that stuff out in advance,

20:47

then the work and life commitments will

20:50

just sort of fill the gaps. And so

20:51

you've got to be intentional about

20:52

blocking this stuff out in advance. This

20:54

is building a system around your

20:55

relationships. The most social people I

20:57

know are not just randomly going to

20:59

social events, especially once they

21:00

become adults and start having kids and

21:02

start becoming busy. They start doing

21:03

standing order social events. One of my

21:05

friends in that who's very intentional

21:06

about relationships, he was like living

21:08

in Austin for a few years, and so he and

21:09

his wife set up a weekly meet-up at the

21:12

local lake. Anyone was invited, so they

21:14

just invited all their friends. They're

21:15

like, "Hey, we're going to be at this

21:16

lake 8:00 a.m. every Saturday morning,

21:18

and then we're going to go for breakfast

21:19

afterwards. If you can make it, come

21:20

join us." And they did this every single

21:22

week for 4 years, and this was an

21:24

amazing way for them to maintain

21:26

relationships and friendships with

21:27

people that they already knew. And also

21:28

was a fantastic way to get to know new

21:30

people because, you know, new people

21:31

would be like, "Oh, you know, my friend

21:32

Johnny's in town, like let's bring him

21:34

along to this Saturday or to social

21:35

event, this like 8:00 a.m. every

21:36

Saturday lake meet-up." So, there's

21:38

things like that that you can do that

21:39

systemize the stuff that you want to do

21:41

in your social life as well. This is the

21:43

value of like a monthly book club or a

21:45

weekly lads video game night or monthly

21:48

movie night with your friends, and

21:49

especially when people get busy. Like,

21:51

if you're watching this and you're young

21:52

and you're like, "Holy I can't

21:53

believe like why do you have to stick a

21:55

calendar event for hanging out with your

21:56

friends?" If you're watching this and

21:57

you're above the age of 25, you know

21:59

that you're busy, your friends are busy,

22:01

especially if you're watching this and

22:02

you have kids or your friends have kids.

22:04

It's such a total freaking nightmare

22:06

trying to schedule people and get them

22:07

together, which is why having a system

22:09

around it can really, really help. And I

22:11

don't know if it's a thing in the rest

22:12

of the world, but in the UK, there's

22:13

like a real tradition of like sending

22:14

physical Christmas cards to the people

22:16

that you know. And so, we really suck at

22:18

this, but like I've got some friends who

22:19

are really good at sending an annual

22:21

Christmas card, and it's amazing how

22:22

such a small thing can actually sustain

22:24

a friendship for decades and decades

22:26

because you know you've got this annual

22:28

touch point where you just send a nice

22:29

handwritten Christmas card, maybe

22:30

there's a photo of the family, maybe

22:31

there's a bit of an update about what

22:33

you're up to. And there is a system

22:34

around this. The people that remember

22:36

birthdays, they probably don't have the

22:37

birthday in your head, they probably

22:38

have it in their calendar. And the

22:39

people I know who are the most

22:40

thoughtful about birthdays, not only

22:42

have your birthday in the calendar, but

22:44

they'll have a recurring event every

22:46

year in their to-do list that like 2

22:48

weeks before the birthday reminds them

22:49

that, "Hey, Ali's birthday's coming up

22:51

on whatever." And so, they'll start

22:52

thinking about the gift or the card and

22:54

stuff like 2 weeks in advance. All of

22:55

these are different examples of

22:56

systemizing your relationships so that

22:58

it takes the guesswork out of it, it

22:59

takes the the decision fatigue out of

23:01

it, and ultimately it nudges you towards

23:03

doing the actions that you know are

23:04

going to make it more likely that you

23:06

achieve your goal. In this case, it's to

23:08

maintain a good relationship with your

23:09

spouse and kids and friends and family

23:11

and stuff.

23:13

The final system I want to talk about in

23:14

this video, and we could talk about this

23:15

for for absolutely ever because I love

23:17

this stuff. This would be some kind of

23:18

system around what do you do by default

23:21

when your paycheck comes in, assuming

23:22

you have a job or assuming you have a

23:24

business. And in general, most personal

23:26

finance advisers and gurus and stuff who

23:27

like think about this stuff a lot and

23:29

advise people about it, talk about

23:31

building a system to put your finances

23:33

on autopilot as much as possible. So,

23:36

the people that end up not saving or

23:37

investing any money are the ones who get

23:39

the paycheck, and then they do whatever

23:41

they want with it. And then they're

23:42

like, "Oh, hey, at yeah, at some point,

23:44

if there's any left over, then I'll

23:46

invest it or then I'll save it." That

23:47

often never works because there is often

23:49

very little left over. Let's say this is

23:50

your monthly paycheck. As soon as the

23:52

paycheck comes in, automatically some

23:54

percentage of it is set aside for

23:55

savings, and it goes into a a savings

23:58

account, for example. Automatically some

24:00

percentage of it is set aside for

24:01

investments, and it automatically goes

24:03

into the investment account via

24:05

Robinhood or the Roth IRA or whatever

24:07

the system is depending on your country.

24:09

Some percentage of it is automatically

24:11

set aside for tax if you are in a

24:13

country or in a situation where you have

24:14

to pay your own taxes.

24:16

Some is automatically set aside for

24:18

bills.

24:19

And then you know that you can kind of

24:21

do whatever you want with the rest

24:22

because at least the basics that are

24:24

going to keep you out of prison and that

24:25

are going to grow your financial nest

24:26

egg have been taken care of. This is an

24:28

example of a personal finance system. It

24:30

is a series of actions or steps that you

24:32

do every time you get your paycheck that

24:33

reduces the need for guesswork, and if

24:35

you can automate as much of this as

24:36

possible, it means that you don't even

24:38

have to make the decision every single

24:39

time cuz it automatically goes into the

24:41

savings account and the investment

24:42

account and the bills account and the

24:43

tax account, and then you know what's

24:44

left over. Whereas, if this is not

24:46

automated, then every single month you

24:48

have to actively make the decisions. And

24:50

the problem with actively make making

24:51

decisions is that we generally make

24:52

decisions emotionally rather than

24:54

logically, even though we like to think

24:55

of ourselves as logical creatures.

24:56

Actually,

24:57

like 99% of our decisions are made

24:59

purely based on emotion. And because our

25:00

emotions are like fluctuating,

25:03

if we're feeling great and the paycheck

25:04

hits, then fantastic. We might be, you

25:06

know, be living in line with our our

25:07

future self and like putting stuff into

25:09

savings and investments. But if we're

25:10

not feeling great and the paycheck comes

25:11

in, we might be doing a lot less

25:13

sensible things when it comes to our

25:14

money. And so what a system does is that

25:16

it removes the need for you to make that

25:17

decision every single time. You make the

25:19

decision ahead of time, you set it and

25:21

forget it. And that tends to be how the

25:23

people that succeed at saving and

25:24

investing through uh the mechanism of

25:26

something like a regular paycheck, they

25:27

tend to have some kind of system around

25:29

it. Now, hopefully this video has

25:30

convinced you that it's very helpful to

25:31

have systems around your personal and

25:33

professional life to help you achieve

25:34

your goals. And if you're interested in

25:35

learning more about the specific system

25:37

that I've developed around goal setting,

25:38

then there will be a video right over

25:39

here, which is about the GPS method.

25:42

Now, GPS stands for goal, plan, and

25:43

system. So, it's another video that's

25:44

about systems, but it will go into much

25:46

more detail about specifically how to

25:48

set goals, how to create plans, and then

25:49

how to build systems to make sure you

25:51

actually stick to the plan. So, that'll

25:52

be right over there. And thank you so

25:53

much for watching, and I will see you

25:54

over there. Bye-bye.

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