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Hello everyone, back again to

give your opinion in this life, maybe

many of you often feel

ordered to be used and

give too much, whether it's

time, energy, material, feel unappreciated

and feel powerless if you are

in that situation, this happens

because we unconsciously

allow these people

to treat us like that, maybe

because we ourselves do not have

boundaries or Grace is a limit

to indicate which things are

expectable and which are not, what can be

tolerated and which are not, and this limit

applies to others and also to

ourselves, in one of his books, Dr.

Hendrik Laut once said that build

from there. Like our houses, they are

usually surrounded by a fence, after

that there is an entrance, then in the house

there are other rooms. One of them is

our bedroom, there are people who

can only be outside the fence, there are those who

can enter but only by

guests, then there are also people who we

allow to enter our room, so that's how

brownies are like,

determining physical space, emotional space,

mental space, and also spiritual space

for ourselves,

these boundaries also have different types and priority scales, some of which are

emotional, there are physical ones, then

our boundaries are also different for other people,

there are significant ones, ADR for friends, to

parents, there are boundaries that are

very Rizieq, there are more flexible ones,

there are big deals, there are also trivial ones,

for me, one of the boundaries that

other people have is that I don't

want people to give my personal number to

other people without my permission first,

then for my

own boundaries, I have to sleep at

least 7 hours every day, according to me,

having boundaries is very important,

setting bandwidth is not to control

other people but to protect

ourselves, well, this helps us to

differentiate between our position and the

position of others and differentiate between

our desires and the desires of others

So the life we ​​live will

be more authentic and in accordance with the

values ​​we hold,

setting boundaries is a form of

self-love, we have the right to

have equality, Space and

protect the species, and as

humans, we have autonomy over

ourselves, like what I said

before, building Deris is

our protector, protecting ourselves from people

who might want to take advantage of us,

controlling us, manipulating us, and

we shouldn't live like a

freezer, other people's happiness is

not our responsibility, then

having boundaries also helps us

to form healthy relationships

with others because actually a

healthy relationship is based on your

respect the relationship at that time is about

how we are not about what

we do to that person Because

this is an interesting thought for me free

I often observe someone who

likes to be friends or have a

relationship with another person not because of

how the person is not because of

their personality nor because of the

values ​​they hold but often

because that person is good to us well the

problem with this word good sometimes

we like to misunderstand we think that

people are good because they are young

Cup he does something for us - we are

easy to take his time easy

to take his energy this kind of mindset

cannot be used to have a

healthy relationship with others

if we can set boundaries it will be

easy for us to know who are the

people who really respect us

you remind me of Prince Suko

because I happened to have

watched Avatar Aang until the end

free this tribe is really obsessed with

wanting to respond to the gang wherever you

go he will be chased by him and he does it

because he has to get

his owner back He wants to be accepted

again by his father well the longer

Shizuko is getting more frustrated because she

country have to probe his father if

he is Wifi nah indien he realized that

he restore Windows others have to make

limits Iwan kebo HP sendiri Kitchen is

back against Water Adventure he chooses his

own destiny even though it's just a cartoon

But in my opinion the blue is very important

to hold we are responsible

for ourselves our existence is

not for

others And we have the right to live

independently what does it mean not

depending on the wishes of others

on the feelings of others moods of others

or the thoughts of others even though

having limits and principles is the

most important thing this is very difficult to

do often we don't want to

look difficult look complicated

look stiff because maybe we are afraid that

people will be disappointed with us and

even leave us so all this time

we have to compromise and

adjust until we have to sacrifice

our server and not respect

ourselves then we also have

concerns that if we have limits

and communicate that

other people will be confronted and not

everyone likes consultation so to

avoid that we finally

compromise again there are also

people who don't even know

that the concept of building from here access could

be because all this time he was not

taught by his parents or

those closest to him it could also be

because going up nagging from and prefetch

that they have always been in bayt at

finally formed a mindset of self

brotherhood in life and I should

have a fence like that from syaithon enough to

lead everybody in his problems Not

all the people we allow to enter are good

people who are truly good

and sincere there are also people who are camping

thieves many of us also

misunderstand this about boundaries we

think that having boundaries is a

sign that we are selfish we only care

about our well-being and we want to

control others to behave

according to our standards It's not true

if we want to respect others

we must first learn to

inspect ourselves and respect

others not by always

allowing them to process other than

and always IAIN whatever they ask

Well now the most important point

How can we know the boundaries What

should we do first we

still find out what values

we hold this is why self-wernas

is very important we must continue to

ask ourselves

what things are essential for us what

we like and what we don't then

we

Annisa it all Why do we consider

a file that is important why are we

uncomfortable when faced The same

thing continuously How

should we challenge ourselves with

these questions and

do not dismiss our feelings

then categorize

these boundaries find the balance because building

from here is also very related to the

situation and conditions and also the people we are

facing and always remember

that we have the right to have servers

self-respect and healthy wealthy what

we still do is

apply these boundaries if we

just make them but the year the symptoms are the

same is a lie well when the bonus is

being tested We also have to

go through that situation approximately

this is crucial whether we should

directly communicate to

this person or not then when

communicating it we have to

stress parent and be as honest as possible must be

clear firm straightforward and of course

must be polite of course we will

feel uncomfortable or maybe afraid

But this all needs a process

the more often we are candidates Jing

boundaries we have made this will be

easier for us to communicate it well well well for

example

this person Whether our friend or

our head or whoever to Trigger or not

accept we set boundaries against

their behavior we do not need to feel

Sorry or apologize because it comes back

to the person's part is not

our responsibility and the person's offense also

not our responsibility Wardah North

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Then if that person is still offended

it's not your problem And one

last thing that is also important is that we

have to look for a support system, namely

people who can help

us to get this video out and practice

building from here people who

really care about us more than what

we want to do what they want

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